- “I am overweight.”
- “I am unemployed.”
- “I only meet men who are unavailable.”
- “My family rejects me…”
This is like hanging a sign around your neck that acts like a stone. You wind up keeping your problem and losing your identity.
I learned this in a diet book of all things. The author cautioned the reader not to call themselves a “person who loves cookies”. His theory was that if you characterize yourself in this way, you have to keep proving the rule. You have to eat cookies all the time, because after all, you’re a cookie-lover, right? That’s your identity.
Guess what? If you quit telling people you love cookies, you can quit eating them.
Yesterday I wrote about a problem I’ve had for years. I wasn’t able to do anything about so I went on with my life, allowing the problem to run in the background until a solution could be found. Can you see how powerful this is? I did not deny the problem. I just didn’t define myself with it, either.
So often we’re our own worst enemy.
What does the sign around your neck say?