On the boards, orangie asked about chart elements that might make someone prone to disappearing. What occurred to me when looking at the chart was not what I expected. Disappearing causes Neptune to come to mind, but what I saw was Uranus and Mars.
When Uranus aspects Mars you get someone who acts (Mars) quickly (Uranus). Add in the moon to the mix and you get someone who needs (Moon) space (Uranus).
My mother used to read to my sister and I a great deal. One of our favorite books she read was “Half Magic
” by Edward Eager. The book was about children who found a magic talisman and the adventures they had. In the book the children comically and fondly referred to their mother as “The Bolter.” She was widowed and was easily spooked away from any new relationship. Our parents were divorced and my sister and I took to calling my mother, “The Bolter.” It was true, and thankfully she didn’t take umbrage at the association, just laughed it off in her Sagittarian style.
My mother has her issues and is prone to the quick cut-off in relationship. However, there’s always a caveat. When my mother found the relationship that offered her what she needed, love with space, she stayed and stayed. She and my stepfather have been together nearly twenty years now and for all their quirks (Uranus) they seem very happy. It reminds me of one of my favorite childhood jokes: why did the chicken cross the road– to show the armadillo it could be done. Relationship with Uranus involved: it can be done.
Do you need space in relationship? Can you see it in your chart?