Threatening To Leave Your Relationship – Video

I want to start a series of short videos designed to help people improve their relationships.  First up – Security!

Do you threaten your partner’s security?



Threatening To Leave Your Relationship – Video — 10 Comments

  1. This is really great advice.
    I think some people don’t realize how destructive that type of behavior can be.
    You say it so well! Who wants to invest in a bank that’s going bankrupt, or stay in a sinking boat?

  2. Elsa, so glad to see you still looking fabulous!
    Great advice. That kind of talk is manipulative, used to create insecurity.

  3. My Dad should probably have seen this video when we were kids.
    I think he threatened to leave us approx every week or so.

    In the end, I lost all of my respect for him and left HIM instead.

    Fast forward to my first relationship where I was constantly afraid that my partner would leave me. Well, in the end he did. But it was a good thing. Our values were never aligned anyway. And I needed to grow the F up and grow some balls and backbone at the same time.

    Now, I am in a relationship where I am not taking the other person for granted (at least – I am trying my damnedest not to), and I really WANT this guy to be my man. I WANT to commit to a future with him, I WANT to be more than his girlfriend one day. I know he feels very good around me, and that is probably where you need to start – does it feel good to be around them? That is probably because they make you feel safe and secure!

  4. In my situation, the person I depended on financially, would tell me to leave constantly when I went against their wishes or stood up for myself or my child. They knew damn well I could not leave, so it was just a way to reinforce power over me. Basically I couldn’t win and I was repressed.

    All I thought about was finding a way to leave.

    So telling someone to leave has the same effect fyi.

  5. I’m still with them. They don’t do it anymore, now that I can actually leave… hmm howabout that? Proves they never really wanted me to leave. But I still haven’t forgotten how that made me feel. I will never forget it.

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