“Choose your battles.”
Those phrases are commonly used these days. They have value but I want to take a deeper look.
The things that irk my husband and cause him to react are rarely things that irk me. Many things that infuriate me don’t bother him much, if at all. We run up against this difference between us all the time.
It’s hard to know what drives another person. But I’ve spent time considering what drives my anger and what I realized may surprise you.
“My husband cheated on me, so I don’t trust men anymore…”
“This makes me mad, because this happened to me…”
Many people say that X happened to them and therefore, Y. I don’t see it being a factor for me. I don’t think it’s factor for my husband either. We’re both strong characters and not going to be easily moved and manipulated by some outside force.
I become very angry when someone tries to make me go against my principles.
I go ballistic when a person thinks they can control me and force me conform to their standard or their principles. I will knock your block off for this. I will toss you into the next state, never speak to you again, and just in general, treat you the way I would trash.
How’s that for a reaction?
I have Mars conjunct Mercury in the 9th house. Er…clearly.
“Just imagine someone knocking on the front door, to tell me that what I was doing was wrong and from here on out, I would have to adhere to a new standard, they would set for me,” I said my husband. The scenario is laughable yet people do this.
If this were to happen to my husband, he’d be amused. If this happened to me, I’d be eyein’ my baseball bat and thinking about swinging it at your head. Set you own standards, ya jerk!
What enrages you? Can you tie in the astrology?