“I want to learn to be kind,” I told my husband.
“Don’t break anything,” he answered.
This got me off to a humorous start, but I’m quite serious about what I’m doing. I am on a quest in this regard. I’m studying kindness. It’s been thrilling, mind-boggling and best of all, it’s working.
A friend tell me that I am already kind. I’m not so sure. Generous, yes. Helpful, yes. Effective, yes. But kind? I don’t think so. I know some truly kind people and I’m not one of them. I admire them though, so I decided to try to cultivate this quality in myself.
As part of my study, I looked into the astrological ruler of “kindness”. It turns out to be the moon. It makes sense this would be an undeveloped quality in me, considering I’m a Capricorn rising. I’m disciplined and can be relied on to act with integrity but that’s not kindness! With the moon ruling my 7th house, this also explains how I can see this quality in others.
I’ve learned that “kindness” anticipates other’s needs and wishes. I do this at times but I want to do it more and I want to do it reliably. I’m beginning to understand how the smallest kind word or action cannot only change a person’s day, it can change their life. It can save their life! Is that not power?
I want this power to flow through me to help others. And if this means, I have to teach myself to be kind, then that’s what I’m going to do.
By the way, I was never taught to be kind. It’s a real deficit and I’m going to fix it!
Are you kind? Can you give us an example of what “kindness” looks like in your world?