Yesterday my husband showed me this video of Freda Payne because she’s singing out song and because her hair is so big.
“The clothes were better back then,” I said. “Look at those colors,” I said, mesmerized by the man wearing green from head to toe.
“Look at how we danced back then, P. We danced like chickens,” he said, bowing his arms out and flapping them like wings. “These kids today think they know how to dance but back then we got our dances from the barnyard!”
I laughed because I like our generation. Later I posted about reducing the strife in my life and of course someone showed up in the comments to insult me.
I deleted the comment and made a few of my own and then wrote this about the ill-mannered commenter, “mick”.
“As the so-called “public person”, I am to not supposed have reactions or feelings (especially negative feelings) about anyone who shows up and that’s just not realistic. I think mick is a punk and if he spoke to me like that in front of my husband (aka in real life) my husband would knock a few teeth out because in our world, men don’t disrespect women, especially his woman. mick would see this of course, in real life, and he’d show some decorum.”
What I said was true. It’s so distasteful for a man to disrespect a woman, to cheat 0n her, to leave her with his babies, etc. Women can also be distasteful of course. My point is that people internalize the values, tastes and trends of their era and this stuff is baked in.
There is an idea out there that one ought to keep up with the times. This is true to an extent. A computer is more versatile than a typewriter. As I age and it’s harder to see, a kindle might be the thing that allows me to continue reading comfortably if I can increase the text size. But on other fronts, it is most definitely not true as most agree that we are now a society in decline.
If something works better and improves your life, it makes sense to progress in that direction. If something “new” degrades your life, you’re going to be better off sticking to your old and so-called antiquated ways.
To identify our generation, my husband and I have Pluto in Virgo. We both are appalled when we see a man disrespect a woman, and appalled that women put up with it. It’s just not done in our world and I wonder what your world is like. What qualities do you share with others in your generation (or culture). What beliefs are “baked in”?
What is your world like?