anonymoushermit started an interesting conversation in the forum: People Who Fall In Your 8th House And You In Theirs
This is a great question and hard to answer.
I have a packed 8th house. I encounter a lot of people due to my job! I can definitely feel it when I work with someone whose planets land on top mine in my 8th house.
Invariably, there is a powerful exchange. Positive. However, if I were around them all the time,I can easily see how we’d unnerve each other.
This might be due to the emphasis on my 8th, natally. It’s as if it’s my territory. You can get in there and poke around a bit but if you stay too long and poke too much, eventually I’m going to throw some kind of edge up.
My reaction smacks of the Taurus/Scorpio axis. It’s a possessive, self-protective response.
Offline, I identify people with their Sun or Moon in my 8th. I tend to like them and trust them. I appreciate them, I like to talk to them, I cooperate with them and but I also tend to keep them on the periphery.
I don’t mean this is in a bad way. It’s just a fact. When I’m going out of my way to spend time with someone; inviting them over or meeting them for lunch or something like that, it’s generally not with someone who lives in my 8th house. I feel smothered.
It’s like someone planting their seeds in my garden. Don’t do that! Look at my garden from some kind of angle; or perhaps I’ll take you on a guided tour. But you’re not going to post up in there all day or all night or for a week or two. My skin crawls, thinking about it.
What are your experiences in this realm?