How does it affect synastry when one partner’s personal planets land in the other’s 12th house? What does it mean, and how does it affect things? For instance, my Sun and Venus land in the 12th house of my ex/long term best friend. I’ve always been madly in love with him, and he claims he isn’t…but his actions speak otherwise. Can he just not see it because of this placement? What’s the deal?
Heather in Boulder CO
Hi, Heather. I don’t think I can give a uniform answer as to how planets behave in the other person’s 12th house. I also can’t tell you, definitively, how they’re experienced by the person who has their twelfth house activated. This is because there are endless ways these things can play. The twelfth house by it’s nature is diffuse and undefined. That said, I do know something about this.
Most sources will tell you that the twelfth house overlay is not good for relationships. The general claim is that it disturbs the person whose twelfth house is activated. I understand this. Some would be uncomfortable with someone seeping into their dreams or communicating with them in the ethereal realm. It might be like having an itch you can’t scratch.
However, I have a group of planets that fall my husband’s twelfth house and he’s had no complaint with it. In fact, I was his spiritual company for more than the twenty years we spent apart. If a person is open to the supernatural, this would be a positive thing to see in an overlay.
Specific to you, the overlay situation might have some play here, but my guess is that there’s more to this story. Someone may be misinterpreting something. Or someone is misleading someone (deliberately or otherwise). It’s possible the blind spot is yours, not his.
It’s difficult to tell what’s going on here. You say he’s your EX-best friend.
He told you that he is not in love with you.
These are “actions” of some type.
Without knowing of his opposite actions that indicate his interest in you, it’s hard to weigh this and determine what the deal is. Feel free to elaborate in the comments. We may still be able to figure it out.
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