Catch up here – Psychological Games…
On being game-y, my friend said she got a lot of power from doing this. She had control. Judging by the comments it seems we may not all be talking about the same thing so let me clarify.
My friend would engage a man. She would be very attentive to him, leading him to believe she was really interested in knowing him and as soon as she had him hooked she would detach.
At this point the man would come after her. After all, she loved him yesterday, didn’t she? And when he presented himself thinking he had forged some kind of connection with her she would act aloof! She would treat him with some degree of coolness which would have the effect of undermining him… on all levels. It’s gaslighting. “Didn’t she just like me yesterday? Did I imagine that?”
The person who was showered with attention initially is now painfully confused and think about the position this puts my friend in. She’s got all the power, see? She can give pleasure and she can take it away and the man just has to stand there befuddled.
She said her behavior was completely driven by her insecurities at the time and this makes sense because if you trust you are a desirable person you can meet someone on a level playing field and take your chances.
Some people are enormously susceptible to this kind of thing. I’m one of them. I’ve got Venus Neptune for starters, so how easy is it going to be to confuse me in relationship? All I need is a whiff!
Add to that my Saturn / Neptune personality… well remember, Bill Clinton’s claim around pot smoking? “I smoked it but I didn’t inhale.” My version would be, “He smoked it and I got high!”
Is Venus mashed with Neptune in your chart? How about Saturn?