I fantasize about belonging to someone (an extremely dominant and possessive Scorpio type guy, to be specific), but at the same time there are few things I hate more than having my independence stifled. Intellectual and emotional compatibility are absolute requirements – but granted those, if there’s not also an intense—and I do mean INTENSE—sexual chemistry, I’m not interested in being anything more than good friends. I also don’t do casual sex, as it has only ever left me feeling like crap.
My standards are very high, I admit, and my needs can be contradictory but I have never ever demanded anyone else to conform to any of them. I’ve just said “Well, we’re obviously not compatible, that’s all” and moved on.
Do you think I should just get comfortable with the fact that I might not be cut out for long-term romantic partnerships (and the sex that goes with them)? That situation wouldn’t be so terrible as I could probably be pretty satisfied staying celibate the rest of my days—there are bigger and more important things in life to be concerned about, it seems to me—but I really don’t want to…
You’re pretty demanding for a submissive type. ::smiles::
Your requirements are exacting and you don’t demand anyone conform to your standards, you just leave them when they fail to conform to your standards!
What you have is a chart full of oppositions. You have Venus opposite Neptune, various other sundries that all combine to create a hall of mirrors where the thing you are looking for is what you are and the thing that repels you is also what you are.
Does this preclude you from having a sex life? I doubt it. A relationship? No.
Does it preclude you from being a successful submissive? Yeah probably, seeing as you are as dominant as you are submissive… dang!
There is nothing to do but explore this your whole life.