I have a lot of clients on the fence about a relationship right now, they are primarily, Piscean. It’s because Saturn has been retrograde in the opposite sign, Virgo so while they feel pressured to “do the right thing”, they have not been able to comply because they’ve not been able discern what the right thing is.
Many of them want commitment from the partner who may or may not want the same and there is confusion around how demanding or expressive they should be. Others are confused about what they want (or deserve) but for what it may be worth I want throw this out here.
I am in a strong relationship and the reason why can be traced back several years to when Saturn was in my 7th house (an equivalent transit to what Pisces / Pisces rising has going now). The soldier and I were contemplating getting together and he told me in no uncertain terms what he would and would not do – what he was and was not interested in. He DEFINED this.
He specifically told me he did not want to be in another failed relationship or marriage. He meant in his life. He was adamant in saying he would rather be alone for the rest of his life than fail in another relationship. He said this was not a light thing to him and he would appreciate my understanding this.
If you think I responded, “Deal me in,” I did not! I listened carefully and retreated for WEEKS. It took me at least a month to think things through, check my feelings, discuss things with my friends, etc. before I came to the conclusion I wanted to go forward. We did go forward, we have kept our word(s) to each other and our relationship is… well I believe it to be impenetrable.
I am telling you this to let you know that had he not been specific and uncompromising, I don’t think we’d be where we are. Had he said, “We’ll get together and see how it goes…” I think it might have gone differently with a flighty type like me but as it was I made the commitment.
So you gals, if you want the commitment, ask for it because your man might be like me. It might take him awhile, it sure took me awhile but if you refuse to define this (Saturn) you’ve got no chance.
Saturn is slow but permanent. Uranus is aspecting so you are looking for permanent change (Uranus) and real (Saturn) liberation (Uranus).
Note in this story, the soldier’s patience and the level of his maturity. “I can’t answer that,”I’d say. “I have to discover my feelings and I’ve not managed…”
Eventually I managed and I can’t tell you how glad I am he did not relax his standard. “If you won’t take this deal, how about this one, this one, or this one?”
If he’d have done that we’d still be negotiating…
Saturn goes direct May 16th. Clarity is coming.