It’s normal to look hideous, and feel or even be repulsive, when you’re in a heavy-duty period of transformation. I wrote to a client who is reflecting back on life:
“From my perspective, you’re a huge success and your success is well-earned. I had three years of therapy myself, thirty years ago. It’s normal to look funky at various stages of transformation…”
I cringe when I look back on my life and contemplate my own process. I’d hate to be called on to defend my behavior at certain points in my life!
It’s important to make amends if you harmed someone if it’s appropriate to contact them. But other that, this is just the ways it goes because to transform means that some part of you has got to die. These parts don’t necessarily face away without kicking, screaming and punching.
Who can relate?