Catch up here – In The Opinion Of My 8th House… Stabbed In Back? No Problem!
And how do you think it feels to be the gal who cheated on him, hmm?
How well that gal fares depends on how well she knows how to use energy! Hank Williams is up there on the stage singing about her cheating heart! And people are clapping! And he’s getting paid! And where is she? She’s up a creek! But what she does at this juncture is up to her.
At first there is anger, I’m sure. That bastard! It’s not like we hear her side of the story! So she can spiral down in a sea of resentment and victim-hood or she might do something completely different. She might think about her cheating heart! And she might decide to feel her feelings. To dig it out, so to speak. She might go the grueling path and if she does that…
Well, she just might write her own song! She may learn she’s an artist too! She may be totally empowered, and have her life changed by this intensely painful experience.
But this takes effort. It takes balls! Much easier to cry in your milk. Much easier pour yourself a drink! Much easier to go out and fuck 11 more men in an effort erase the memory of this last one!
So you see how it goes. If you’re going to be alive, you’re going to get cards dealt to you. Some of them are going to be sweet. Others will be devastating. But if you get yourself sophisticated about this kind of thing, and if you are willing to be creative, you’ll see it makes little difference what others do. It’s all gas in your tank and you can drive wherever you please!
So with this in mind, if you go back and read the advice to the gal who was so profoundly dumped that started all this, it will probably make a lot more sense.
“The secret of success
is learning how to use pain and pleasure
instead of having pain and pleasure use you.
If you do that, you’re in control of your life.
If you don’t, life controls you.”
— Anthony Robbins
thank you elsa, for the hitch. needed to hear this recently. 🙂
Awareness is a wonderful thing…..!
Oh yes, been there done that, and been transformed by the experience. The way you speak about empowerment is very accurate. Sometimes the bad cards allow you to be a better person than any hand of good cards will.
I expected this blast from the past to stir up more of an emotional storm for me, but it’s not. Processing may finally be complete. 🙂
“if you are willing to be creative, you’ll see it makes little difference what others do”
I wish I’d learned this when I was much younger, I think I’d have saved myself years of heartache…
Wow, this is my life!
I was the girl being called on from the stage, on my birthday, as my boyfriend talked about his no good cheating girlfriend and sang “Runaround Sue.”
Problem was, we weren’t seeing each other any more. He was seeing…lots of people. After almost two months of him having no interest in seeing me, I moved on. And in his eyes, that meant I was cheating on him.
And what you said above is EXACTLY what I did. I started writing my own songs.
Love this post, Elsa. Thank you.
You’re welcome. 🙂
it occurred to me today that some people are jealous of my so-called “talents”. and i thought, the only reason why i’m good at x,y, and z is because it was either doing that or crying my eyes out.
She might also decide to never, ever stop doing what she’s doing because somehow it empowers her.
That is, until she either catches an STD or wakes up at forty with no one at her side.
No sympathy from me (Pluto).