I have been in a single state for many years now. Partly through wanting to be but more lately just finding that I don’t meet ANYONE. It’s starting to feel like I’m being karmically punished. Now I’m not
the greatest socialiser – I admit I don’t get out there hunting men. I do however go about my day to day life and you’d think after a while you might meet someone, just by the law of averages? I’ve moved around a lot for work in the last few years, the background of my life is constantly changing but has appeared to be empty of potential mates.
Is it me or what?
Lost and wandering in the love desert
It is you, in that you’re the only one involved. But I don’t mean that in a blaming way and I definitely don’t think this has to do with karma or punishment, at all.
With a stellium in Scorpio in the 10th house, your chart shows a formidable person with tremendous power and authority. Your power is fixed, like a fortress. It’s easy to see how you could find yourself in these circumstances. I doubt you’re that easy to approach!
Luckily, this can be overcome pretty easily, which may surprise you. Once you see what others see, you can alter the situation. This is especially true with a chart like yours, so full of promise and prowess.
The trick is to make yourself more approachable. I am not talking about dumbing yourself down. This is not necessary! You’re quite magnetic, as is. But I do imagine you come across as a closed loop. This intimidates. As attracted as a person might be, my guess is that you’re difficult, if not impossible to access.
To remedy this, you don’t have to hunt. You only have to leave a door open.
The possible sticking point here, is that you focus on fear of rejection, an inability to trust and various things of that nature. You can potentially choose this and harm and thwart yourself. You can become a ball of pathology, but you can also opt to use this information, keenly and cleanly.
You’re naturally, effective. I’m pretty sure you see yourself in what I’ve written. If you’re willing to use your skills to change this scenario, I think you’ll be able to do it. This can be as simple as changing your body language. You need a tweak, not an overhaul. The change can be subtle.
I say this with confidence: if you can recognize that you’re unapproachable, and change this, I think you’ll find yourself living a very different life. The prospect is exciting!
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