Rob writes regarding Women Who Chase Other Women’s Men:
“It’s a social capital thing… the more desirable a person seems to society in general, the more people who weren’t that interested to begin with find themselves attracted…
If a man is married the woman must have thought he’s pretty special, yeah? Couple that with the myth that all the good’uns are married and…
Well, it’s not much of a mystery.”
Rob, I get that. But I’m talking about a man and a woman who are obviously intimately connected. At that point, it seems it would be something else. A challenge? A desire to be rejected so they can pine?
I think there are good number of people who have no interest in winning. Conscious or otherwise, they go right to the thing they are never going to get, because they’re self-destructive.
They’re like (emotional) suicide bombers. They’ are going to destroy themselves and if others get hurt, so what?
I am self-protective. That’s why this is so mysterious to me.
A better question might be: When some people see a knife, they throw themselves onto it. Why?