Scorpio Moon At Crossroads In A Relationship

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Dear Elsa,

So, I’m moving with my boyfriend to wherever he decides to go to grad school (New Jersey, North Carolina, Maryland, or Massachusetts). All but one of these places is in a cold, humid and large city. I love him very, very much, and I thought I was willing to go for it, and make the best of things…recently he told me that he absolutely did NOT want to get married until after graduate school.

I asked him if he thought he wanted to marry me, and he said. “i think so, but I’m not completely certain.” He says he wishes I’d trust he is committed to me, but hell, I need something more than THAT.

It angers me further, he’s decided to pick the school that’s best for him, whether or not the circumstances make me comfortable or not. If he likes Boston, we are GOING to Boston. If he were my husband, or even fiance, I would be more willing to go along with this, but shit, he’s not making any huge commitment to me, so why should I?

How could someone that claims to love me so much, not be willing to make any sort of gesture of commitment to me? It makes me question the strength of our relationship, which shakes my very core. I do love him, but I’m beginning to resent this part of him.

What do you think about all this? I’m lost.
Scorpio Moon

Dear Scorp,

I think the same thing you think, and would characterize it this way:

Your man thinks he’s somethin’. He’s really something, and he’s making it real clear to you, he calls the shots. Your feelings aside, I see no evidence of a partnership here at all. He’s asking for everything and offering nothing, so yeah. I can see why you’re balking at following him across the country like some kind of dog.

However – I’m not counting him out. Considering your strong feelings, you can’t count him out until you can count him out, and you’re going to have to do something really difficult, to find out, for real. You’re going to have take your energy off him and let him go. I realize this will cause you grave pain. You may have to writhe around some. Er…you will have to writhe around some, but you really need to know.

You need to know, if this is all this guy has. And I’m thinking, if you find out it is – if you find out this is all he can do, then you can find a way to get over him, because here’s the deal.

He’s not respecting your life. YOUR life. And you promise you this. You’re going to want one. You’re going to want a life and you’re going to want a partner who get under you and holds you up, the way you’re willing to do for them.

Settle for less?

Fuck that.

Let him go, and see if he goes. If he goes, you can be very certain you’ve made the right choice, yes? Let some other gal sign up to be, “irrelevent”.

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  1. I agree to every word she said. Please don’t follow him until you marry him. Tomorrow he may commit to you just to make things happen the way he wants but may not even keep up. Respect him for being honest when asked and it’s time to think about your life now. It’s better you know now. Even if you get through a graduate school in the same place he finished, you still can make a difference in your life and make your choices. Use your tactics to test him now that how far he can make sacrifices for you. I can see how much you love him because I’ve been there and I wasted my time with him. He committed and broke up at his own convenience. Scorpio females have tremendous energy when we used it positively and we also find ourselves at peace. These kind of men don’t give us peace but turn us into hateful souls. Now who is going to be at loss?? I’d say for your own peace leave him now if you have better option for betterment of your life OR follow him if you want to study with him until completion, complete your studies and you won’t regret that you’ve been with him till the end and also you achieved studies. You never know if that place and school will get you better opportunities when you follow him. I hope like adventures this way. Our Scorpio life is full of risky adventures

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