I’ve been dating this Scorpio for almost a year and a half, and I love him so much. I’ve tried to move on but it’s so hard when you don’t want anybody else. But he just won’t grow up.
We’ve both betrayed each other in the past, but he’s taking this really hard, and he’s beginning to pull away like he did in the beginning of our relationship. When I look into his eyes I want to believe that he still loves me, but he says he doesn’t know if he can forgive me. Can you suggest anything that could help us get past our past mistakes, and help us move into the future.
Yes, I have suggestions but I don’t think you’ll like them. But you asked, so here they come:
First, I am suspect of anyone who suggests their partner â€˜will not grow up” when they report they have displayed the exact same behavior their partner has.
Second, I suspect anyone who claims to love someone BUT. You love him if only he will conform to your dictates, which of course is not love at all. You don’t want anyone else, however he is not okay the way he is.
Now I am sorry but with this kind of attitude not only is this relationship going to fail but so will the next, the next and the next and the next. And I am not trying to say this guy is innocent. Thing is, you asked how you could get past your mistakes and the fact is you can only get by your own mistakes. And based on what you’ve written your boyfriend is on the fence as to whether he wants to salvage the relationship at all which is another problem for you to face.
You cannot control him. You want to get by your mistakes; he wants someone he can trust. He does not trust you and he does not know if he ever will and if you respected him and if you were mature yourself ,you would give him the time and space to figure this out. As it is, you sound like a General… albeit a nice one with velvet gloves.
But control is control and control is not love, is it?
If you want the man back, look in the mirror. You have a seventh house packed with Libra and you would be well advised to take your energy off him completely and work on your own issues around being a good partner. Frankly, anything less and I don’t think you have much hope.