It’s been said that one of the biggest gifts of marriage is that it helps you get over your selfishness. This is true, as far as I can tell.
Astrologically, it seems to implicate Aries as being self-centered while glorifying, Libra, who cares for “the other”. I don’t buy this at all! I have met countless selfish Libras. I bet you can say the same.
This is on my mind today because I just wrapped up with an Aries client, trying to deal with a Saturn Pluto transit. In this case, the selfishness was not being expressed in a romantic relationship. It was playing the a parent (Capricorn) /child (Aries) realm.
Saturn in Capricorn pressures everyone to grow up. If your sun is in Aries, Cancer or Libra, you’re probably very aware of this. Depending on your age and experience, you may have no clue how to do this, so here is a tip!
Where in your life are you being selfish? If you can identify that and work on it, you’ll be amazed at how fast you get a handle on things. Because guess what? Adults aren’t selfish!
I’m serious about that so I’ll say it again. Adults aren’t selfish!
People with good marriages put their partner, first.
Good parents put their children first.
People with good families, give of themselves to keep their family strong and fortified.
What do you think of this?
Would your life benefit if you were less selfish?
Yes, Elsa! This needs to be shouted from the roof tops!
I agree with this. I don’t think I’m selfish, most of the time. I’m not perfect, but I have given a lot of myself to my family (no child or marriage partner to speak of), and have matured over the years.
I have a Saturn-Sun opposition coming up and I’m not really sure what to expect. But at this moment I can’t think of anything more I could do on the not-being-selfish front.
‘Solving the problem of selfishness through marriage’ showed itself in my 1st marriage to a Aries. I married young and really didn’t know the man I married. He was direct, decisive and came from a culture so different from mine. My Jupiter-Venus sought these qualities. “Selfish” meant different things to each of us. I made decisions in that marriage I regret, reflect on how I’ve matured at this age. I’ve been through two Saturn Returns and in a couple years will have my third Saturn Opposition. Saturn Returns are different than Saturn Oppositions; but there is a common thread of accountability.
In one of your other posts/videos you comment on “turning a corner” on changing and making course corrections as far as Saturn’s concerned. I’m really aware I don’t have many more corners to turn. Pressure is on with Saturn now through my 12th House, and into my 1st. Still so many questions.
Any thoughts about Saturn Oppositions, Elsa?
What we lack and need to develop we meet in others.
I have been selfish in the past.
I am also selfish today – but perhaps mostly when it comes to looking out for me. I take care not to drag myself down into a hole, in regards to negative energy around me. I try to stay out of it and take care of myself, not doing things to hurt my boundaries. I don’t always succeed. And sometimes I am perhaps a BIT too careful, coming off as selfish to others. But I was thinking about guilt (Saturn) can make you selfish. Because if you feel guilty for some reason – you avoid the source of that feeling, being it a person or other. And that will often make you LOOK selfish in others’ eyes, when you shun attending certain things or whatever in an attempt to stop the negativity to influence your boundaries.
I am an 8th house person, so boundaries is a hot topic and has always been. While Saturn has transmitted my 12th house square my moon, I learned a lot about boundaries during that time. So instead of opening up, I protected my boundaries by not attending, with the result of hurting a lot of people. Which made me feel more guilt.
Guilt is a powertool for spotting where you should put up boundaries, in my point of view. But instead of shunning people, work on setting your boundaries so people don’t need to see you as selfish, unless they have unresolved guilt.
this is one of my alltimefavoriteelsaposts!
you nailed it!