Saturn, Responsibility And Doing The Right Thing

Bring It OnI’ve been having an email conversation with a formidable young woman this weekend. It started out as a consultation but has culminated for me as an uplifting learning experience. She is kind, intelligent, strong, creative and thoughtful with a fascinating mind. She also has Saturn prominent and is very responsible. When you’re young and dealing with Saturn it is often a struggle to come to terms with what is your responsibility and what must be left for others to deal with, not just for your own best outcome but for theirs as well. You have to learn to hold strong to your own values, as we are doing with Saturn in Libra, set boundaries (Saturn) and balance them with your good, the other’s good and the greater good.

It helps to understand that because someone expects something of you that does not mean it’s in anyone’s best interest to comply. Sometimes keeping someone else off the floor just delays their inevitable fall. If they have unrealistic expectations no one is going to be able to fix their problem until they decide to fix it themselves. At that point you can “responsibly pull back your energy and gift them with the opportunity to confront the natural consequences of their unrealistic expectations.” I put that in quotes because that is my nice way of paraphrasing Janis Ian from the movie Mean Girls: “Chew on that, suckas! Loolooloolooloo!”

This young woman will “go far.”

How are you doing with setting boundaries in relationships (of all kinds) with Saturn in Libra?

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Saturn, Responsibility And Doing The Right Thing — 14 Comments

  1. I remind myself of Mary Katherine Gallagher of SNL/Superstar (Molly Shannon). I could probably converse entirely in movie quotes.

  2. Hmm that is something to chew on, thanks that makes plenty of sense and it is funny because I knew this all along I just have a hard time applying it lol. Thanks for all the help Satori.

  3. Wow Satori, that is an accomplishment one should be proud of, I have random moments where I will quote line from movies, anime, tv shows, commericials, or anything else that I happen to remember at the time.

  4. I love young people. I treasure their input. Some are mature beyond their years. Far more than I was at their age. (Though I had babies… It doesn’t mean I had a grip on the world.)

    My son left yesterday afternoon and I had brunch with some very very very amazing young people. They are invigorating for the spirit. A match of the mind. A challenge when it’s so easy to let shit slide….

    I am glad you had that experience, satori…. For all the shit we say about some young people these days… There are many that do and will make this woorld a better place.

    I live in gratitude knowing them.

  5. I’m doing pretty well, a few of my relationships are in flux, but generally things are good. Today I had someone try to trample me, though, and I’m currently doing what you have in quotes up there:

    “responsibly pull back your energy and gift them with the opportunity to confront the natural consequences of their unrealistic expectations.”

    I don’t know if it will work, but I’m hoping so, because the person is important to me. This situation has been going on for years, and I just want it to stop.

  6. I know how you feel dolce, but for some reason the advice Satori gave seems sound. Especially because it seems as if our relationships with other people will stay in tact and then we do not have to worry about any resent felt on our side. Especially if we have already expressed how we felt towards the current situation.

  7. Saturn on my natal uranus in the 5th. I think I am more consistent with the kids than ever. Not as energetic though. Hoping the energy will come back and the lessons of consistency will stay!

  8. I would like to just add one more thing here is that Saturn is very honest planet. And it definitely make you honest where ever you are, whether in terms of responsibility, work or love.

  9. Last summer I realized that I needed to stop keeping friendships alive. They need balance from BOTH sides. If they’re meant to be, they’re meant to be. (Lesson learned I thought. )

    I met a new group of friends after. I neglected my me time, love, health, and exercise regime for them. The eclipses this summer hit me really hard. I was so exhausted and drained. I basically crawled into bed and asked everyone to give me space. (Which they grudgingly did after a bit.) It wasn’t until reading a post of Elsa’s that I realized my life was exactly where I had led it. I need to refocus on me and creating the life I want without guilt. Now, I see Saturn lessons are an ongoing process. 🙂

  10. This is such an important lesson, especially for Satrunal types (like myself), who are prone to take on everybody elses responsibilities, and forget to take responsibility for their own wellbeing.

    “It helps to understand that because someone expects something of you that does not mean it’s in anyone’s best interest to comply. Sometimes keeping someone else off the floor just delays their inevitable fall.”
    For the past few years i have been learning to do just that. What a relieve to finally put some of the weight down!

    Thanks for putting it so eloquently.

  11. I am co dependent by nature and am having a challenge not helping. Raising children into adults isn’t easy. You want to make them happy. No pain, no gain, but it’s hard to watch!

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