“Say you live in a era or culture where everyone marries and you really, really don’t want to. There would probably be a day that you realized this – really realized it, and that would constitute a breakthrough. It would help you be more at peace with what you are doing, because as is, there is a vague sense (from others) that you are failing.
The goal here is to get to a point where you understand your own drives and are in control of them, rather than to be acting out, recreating scenarios that are harmful to you or unfair to others…”
Do you feel at ease with how you exchange energy with others? Or do you think there is a pathological basis for how you interact?