“…It’s hard to accept flaws when you believe it can all be idyllic. When you realize there are limitations, everywhere, all the time; this allows you to become content with things that are imperfect. This is so important as we get older. Just think about it. Not everyone can have a spokes-model wife (or husband). Or be one! Even if they can, the situation is fleeting.
Happy people come to terms with this. If you are 80% happy with your husband, that’s all that is reasonable to expect…”
I wrote that for a client. Things do break out (over time) to 80/20.
Are you 80% happy 20% not? Or is it the other way around? How perfect do you expect your life to be?