“You can’t hit the brakes”, my husband, explained. He was referring to things like aging. People age, kids grow up, move out and move on, you reap what you sow, etc.
A person likes to think they can hit the brakes at any time. If you don’t like what is growing in your garden, you can rip the the stuff out and start over, at least until you reach an age that makes this impossible.
There is a point where a line is crossed. You blew out your liver, drinking for example. You lost the respect of your children, your parents, your friends, your partner or your neighbors. You spent all that money / time / energy and it’s gone.
There are circumstances where the water has actually passed under the bridge and considering this, it makes me feel grateful for the things I can still affect.
This is a Saturn phenomena. No one wants to dig up their garden and start over. No one wants to be halfway up a mountain or heavily invested in something be it a relationship or an ideology or a stock of some kind and have to ditch it and start over. What do you mean, I have to rewrite this book?
People resist changing tack because it’s hard. Later it becomes impossible and at that point, you’ve got to live with the result.
Is there something in your life that you really ought to scrap? Why do you resist?