Another odd couple in synastry is Saturn and Jupiter. Saturn limits, defines, and contracts. Jupiter is free, full of potential, and expansive. Jupiter is at the party dancing in circles while Saturn is reminding everyone that the local noise ordinance caps them at 80 decibels. It’s natural for these planets, especially when in hard aspect, to regard each other with total bewilderment.
The Saturn person looks at the Jupiter person and sees someone with so much talent and potential just throwing it away in favor of a good time. They see a teenager blowing their college money on a road trip with their friends. The Jupiter person seems frivolous and silly. The Saturn person may wonder just what the hell the other is so damn happy about, anyway. As my own partner, whose Saturn squares my Jupiter, reminds me on a regular basis, “Life isn’t all cupcakes and sprinkles.” The Saturn person may feel an urge to parent or limit the Jupiter person and bring them back down to earth.
The Jupiter person, on the other hand, looks at Saturn and wonders how they can stand to live that way. Tomorrow isn’t guaranteed, so why not enjoy the moment you’re living? To them, the Saturn person looks like someone walking around the park in a suit of armor, clanging away, acting like the entire world is out to get them. They wonder why Saturn can’t just relax and let life flow instead of always trying to control things or worrying about protecting themselves. Can’t they see how much reason there is for joy?
Obviously, this can be a difficult combination. But there’s another side here. Saturn and Jupiter are a natural pair. Together they are the balance between optimism and pessimism, between fear and hope, between dreams and reality. In my own relationship, my partner has helped me define what truly brings me joy and has supported me in creating structures to make my dreams a reality. He might not always be jumping up and down with me when I celebrate, but he always makes sure I have my morning tea so that I have the energy to go back out there and keep working. And for my part, I’ve helped him to let his hair down a bit and be willing to take a leap of faith. He’s shown me how to be stronger and have better boundaries while I’ve shown him how to smile and really appreciate a killer sunset.
While every couple is different, I think this is a great example of how these two planets can complement each other. If each person can move beyond the initial discomfort to see the value in the other’s perspective, Jupiter and Saturn can create a power couple like no other. It might not always be the easiest fit, but it is beyond worth it.
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What are your experiences with Jupiter and Saturn in synastry? How did you make it work?