I tend to consult others (friends or experts) when I’ve got a sticky problem. I was stunned the first time I wrote about this as the overwhelming majority of people reported they ran their own life, they preferred to make their own mistakes and basically just wanted (or needed) to learn things the hard way or at least they wanted to learn them on their own.
In contrast, I take good advice all the time.
For example when my sister sent me my wedding dress (pictured), I went out to shop for shoes. She said that silver would be a good choice and she mentioned the type of heel I should look for. Armed with this information, I went shopping but when I got there I had to call her.
I was standing in front of the shoe display. “Shiny or matte?” I asked. I left the store with the shiny shoes and never gave it another thought.
This is a superficial example but a good one because I followed her guidance, on faith.
There are times I ask for advice and I am sure the advice receive is sound. It’s logical or perhaps the person details their train of thought and it causes a “eureka” reaction. Other times it is nowhere near as clear.
This might be because the situation is risky. If you do a certain thing, you will probably get a decent but it might also backfire and badly. But other times I may be too close to a situation to see it clearly so I truly have to rely on another person’s vision.
This is a common scenario with me, I chock it up to my Saturn Neptune flavored chart. Reality is often confused so I call around my circle gathering impressions and then make decisions based on other people’s view of things. This is when you really hang yourself out there.
I can see why some would never want to do this but some of us have little choice. It’s like being forced to trust. It’s an interesting way to live. It leaves the quality of your life dependent on the quality of the people you associate with, their brains, their integrity and skills, etc. What a trip, huh?
Have you ever acted based on another person’s interrelation of your life? Why and how did it go?