dana writes on Can A Person Conceal Their Character:
“I think indefinitely with the right person. There are people with a desperation in their hearts and predators can smell this a mile away. They will play their part until they have no use for the victim or they are found out. If a girl wants to get married and have kids then she’ll believe anything.”
What you say is key. A person’s character shows itself very quickly provided you are in the same environment. If you live together, work together, go on dates, you are going to see a person’s true color right away, if you care to.
It’s much easier to conceal things when people take up online. If a predator can place a their hook in a person, deeply. If the target has waited six months to meet, invested emotionally, and dreamed the person up the whole time, they are going to be inclined to ignore clues when they meet in person.
People just don’t know when or how to fold their hand or come to terms with the fact they’ve invested in a slot machine that does not pay. Feeding it more money is not going to help.
In these cases, I don’t think the character is concealed. It’s right there, the person just refuses to acknowledge it. Oddly enough, this same thing happens in reverse just as frequently. That is, a person’s good character is apparent but denied.
It comes down to the lens the person uses when they view others. There are a lot of people out there who have a saint/sinner split. You’re either one or the other and there is no gray at all.
There are various flavors and astrological explanations for this. What’s yours?