llama writes on Pluto Moon Back To School Night…
Sometimes, especially with grief, etc., when people DO talk you wish they hadn’t. Better for them to say nothing than say something callous because they don’t know what to say.
llama, this is a very good point. A lot of people who commented thought these people should have said something to me and they might have but I can’t say I wish they would have. It was very emotional for me going into this new version of my daughter’s old school because I had such high hopes for her. She did eventually test in the 99th percentile – the girl is a bonafide genius and it was just never supposed to turn out like it has.
Had her friend or her friend’s mother had said anything, odds are high they’d have started me crying since I do that so easily anyway and if they were probing out of curiosity… well I’d have cried over that too right before I told them to kiss my ass at the top of my lungs. Yeah, best to let the volcano lie but what was brought home to me as to the astrology was this line – “That is that I am the only one having the experience I am having.”
Everyone’s experience is personal of course but when you are talking Pluto Moon, it is the most personal of all. It is so deeply internal, your senses are very heightened as is your instinct and just all the primal sort of functions.
This is very different from the social level many are functioning on at a gathering of this kind but the Scorpio Moon, or the 8th house Moon, or the Pluto Moon or the Pluto Moon transit person is aware of all the undertow and really nothing but. And so much is going on (this teacher wants to assert her authority from day one… this person is not feeling good at all, etc, etc) below the surface it’s almost a jolt when someone speaks to you because you’re expected to use your mind which is not where you are at in the moment.
I experienced this as well (and have been experiencing it). Will write about it if I get the time and energy but I just wanted to agree with llama… and I’ve said it before.
If you don’t know what to say, saying nothing is a damned good choice. You know, people find ways to be kind. If you want to be kind, there is certainly a way to do it but when you are dealing with the deeply traumatized you should be damned sure whatever you do does not hold expectation they do something back or in return, otherwise you have just made yourself a burden to the already heavily burdened.
See in this situation probably the best that other mother could do is to tell her son, “You be nice to that, Vidroid in there because he has been through hell.” And if her kid is compassionate he will respond and Vid and I will know nothing of it which means we will not be required to respond and just the idea of that makes me sigh with relief.