Last night my husband and I went to meeting concerning “end of life” planning of all types. Wills, funeral planning, Durable Power of Attorney for healthcare, life insurance, long-term care insurance, etc. This was particularly appropriate way to spend the evening… with the moon in Scorpio!
We’ve already hired an attorney and had a couple of meetings. We’re going to our medical doctor next week to check a couple things. It’s not that easy to pull all this together, or at least it’s time-consuming. But we’ve heard a lot of stories during this process and really come to understand how important it is to have your things wrapped up if you care to spare your loved ones.
For example, there was the family who had their father die. He had a small farm. Some man came out of nowhere, to make a claim against the estate. He said he had worked for the farmer; he had an itemized list of his dates of service that showed he was owed, 80K. No one had ever seen the man in their life.
The judge took a look at the list and told the family, unless someone could prove he was a liar, she would award him the money. Ultimately, that’s exactly what happened.
In another situation, a man had three children. One of his daughters was an attorney; yet he refused to state what he wanted, should be become incapacitated. “You three figure it out,” he said. This is a terrible situation to put your kids in.
My husband and I are in the middle of this; we’re about half-done. We’re working with a fraternal organization that will come to your house when someone dies and help your spouse or your kids file everything. We heard from someone on the front line, how the get to someone’s house and no one has any idea where everything (or anything) is. A lot of people are pack-rats, yes? Your grieving family has no clue where to begin.
We’re no working on a “document locator”. It’s three pages long and covers everything. We’ve already paid for our space in a Columbarium. My husband wants his ashes to be put in an M60 shell casing if possible. Fine, but we have to make sure it will fit the space! Personally, I have Libra so I best get something with flowers on it – yes?
Did you know that while Catholics can he cremated, it has to be just the body that is cremated. You’re not to mix the ashes with wood ashes or cardboard or whatever. And this is interesting…
When a body is cremated without a casket, the remains are about as big as a man’s fist. So when they give you a big bag of ashes, it’s mostly other materials.
I’m going into this in this way so that a person might think about this, deeply, and act on it at some point. Because if you can avoid leaving your kids or your spouse a mess when you die, you really should. It’s a thoughtful, loving thing to do.
Have you put any effort into this type of planning?