I moved out of my home a month ago and filed for divorce 2 weeks later, all because that’s what my wife wanted. There has been physical and mental abuse from both parties and my wife has a court date in 2 weeks due to a domestic violence issue. We stopped sleeping together about 4 years ago.
My wife met another man online 2 years ago and went to meet him in person about the same time I filed for divorce. She claims she is too confused right now and wants to cut him out of her life, but not before she tells him that she loves him. I want us to get back together, but all she wants right now is to go full speed ahead with the divorce – even though she claims she doesn’t know how she will feel down the road.
I called her several times a day to beg, plead and reason with her for the first 3 weeks but it’s been a week now since I talked to her. I just wanted to back off and give her some breathing room. I want nothing more than to win my wife back but I am afraid it might be too late. How can I tell if she will ever take me back – or if it’s time for me to move on with my life?
It sounds to me as if you are serious and it also sounds as if you have a chance to win your wife back – but you are going to have to revolutionize your way of being. And if you are not willing to do this, I am sure a separation is in both your best interests. But so long as you’re willing to really change, here is a map. These are the steps you can take and and with a Capricorn Moon and rising I am sure you know how to follow a plan.
First withdraw the petition for divorce if you can. If she wants a divorce, let her file it. You don’t want a divorce, so what are you doing getting one?
Next, whatever the issues of abuse are, solve them. Don’t care what she did to you. That’s her problem to solve. But you’ve got to stop hitting her, yelling at her, or whatever else you are doing – and you have got to stop it completely. If you find this a challenge, get a therapist and figure out why but you must do this 100%. This is non-negotiable.
You must also use your dick! For Godsakes you cannot let your wife languish and go without sex for 4 years! Are you crazy? Are you drunk? Whatever you are, fix it! Women need sex from men to thrive! PERIOD. You are in your early forties for Chrissakes. There is no excuse!
So there you go. If you hit your wife and deprive her of sex, as far as I am concerned she ought to go find another man! And so she did. But in this case, even though she may love him, she apparently doesn’t want him or she would be gone! So it does seem she may be trying to make a point and you may have a chance… and if so I hope you use it.
But from one Capricorn to another, I can tell you right now: if you keep doing “the wrong thing”, you’re going to do nothing but continue to roll down the hill.
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