This is loosely related to my last post, Adults Playing Kid’s Games.
Recently I made a provocative comment to someone. I knew it would disturb her. I suspect most the people who witnessed this saw it in a negative light. I expected that as well. I also imagine most people would assign some negative motivation to what I did.
My motivation was not negative but our culture is so coddling these days, if you tell anyone, anything other than they are wonderful, special, loving, caring, amazing, brilliant and AWESOME, you’re putting yourself as risk.
At risk to be disliked at the very least. I won’t even try to describe the possibilities on the other end.
I made the comment because I respect the person. Specifically, I think she’s smart. I know she has the capability of thinking about something and having a (blinding) light go on. I wouldn’t put odds on this or anything. But the potential is there. I decided to take a shot.
After I made the comment, it occured to me how infrequently we come across people or things that provoke us to examine ourselves or our lives or our thoughts and feelings. The internet is jammed full of pre-thought thoughts, places on signs, you can cut and paste. You can easily spend your life, agreeing or disagreeing and never, ever having an independent thought.
If you do have someone who can serve you food, you have to chew for yourself, and you’ve the sense to react with something beyond anger, consider yourself lucky.
If you’re surrounded by yes-men – not so much.
If this interests you, check out, When You’re Wrong About…Everything.
How do you react when someone tells you something that challenges you or makes you uncomfortable?