In regards to my remark, ” “To avoid pain, do the right thing. Act maturely” on Dealing With Pain And Avoiding Regret Around Relationships That Are Ending As Saturn Leaves Libra abella writes:
“I’ve found some people saying they’ve ‘done’ the ‘right thing’ but they haven’t from my perspective. I don’t think they know ‘what’ the right thing is.
Can you lend some thoughts Elsa on how they can figure out right from wrong? And as you suggest, those people haven’t been ‘mature’ and have been more ‘me oriented’. But what I have witnessed is down the road, they end up paying for not doing what was right at the time (right, in Saturn’s mind).”
Saturn in Libra is all about boundaries. You don’t really know what is in a person’s heart. There are definitely people who endeavor to remain blameless throughout their lives. It may seem they get away with this in the near term, but eventually they hit a wall. Jupiter types like me, gallop off, figuring we’ll land on our feet and in the near term we may. But down the road – UGH.
On the other hand, a person who is being left may claim the person leaving them is not doing the right thing, when in fact they are. For example, you may have a long distance relationship end at this time when one person realizes that no one is going to move and it cannot be sustained. The person being left may think “the right thing to do” is to move home and marry them, but in reality, the love is not there.
An individual must decide what is right for themselves because they are the one who will live with the consequences, which can be quite painful and last for years.
As for defining what it “right”, relationships should be equitable with Saturn in Libra. If you’re taking, you should be giving. You should be giving people their due and getting what you deserve in return.
I cook, my husband weed eats. I drive the kids, they take out the trash. Someone pays me to read their chart, I give them my best work, and my total focus.
If you are still pointing your finger at the other and calling them a demon, you’ve missed the boat. It takes two to tango and all that jazz…
Are your relationships balanced?