My mother has Sun, Mercury, Venus and Uranus conjunct her Ascendant. Her ascendant is at 27 degrees of Aries in the 12th and Sun is located at 20 degrees of Aries in 12th. Mercury is 5 degrees of Taurus, Venus is 7 degrees of Taurus and Uranus is at 12 degrees (in the 1st house). So, she constantly talks about herself — all day.
Mercury is also square Pluto in Cancer in the 4th house, Mercury is sesquiquadrate Neptune in Virgo in the 6th, and Mercury is also quintile Jupiter in Virgo in the 5th.
Conversations with my mother are very challenging, so can you give me any input or advice as to how I can communicate with her? Or should I just give up and let her do all the talking, as my brother and stepfather do, other than saying yes or no occasionally.
What an interesting question. I’d like to offer you some kind of trick that would help your deal with your mother, The Wall Of Sound. But she’s got a good lock on “self-centered, forceful communication”. She’s going to say what she wants, when she wants, the way she wants.
As annoying as this may be, I don’t think you have much chance of altering her personality. Any change would have to come from her and I wouldn’t hold my breath!
As a workaround and an alternative to how the men in your family handle this, you could write down whatever it is you want to say to her. She can read it when you’re not there to talk to. This may not be that satisfying but you’re dealing with an outlier and it may be as good as it gets.
Sometimes we’ve no choice but to take people as they are. She’s the one who can’t listen and can only talk on one topic. If you get caught trying to change this, you’ll be as locked up as she is. So if you can accept her limitations, you’ll be expanding yourself, rather than “losing” or throwing in the towel.
Is there a Wall of Sound in your life? How good are you at hearing another person’s point of view?
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