Holding a grudge has become a way of life for many. I don’t know that my perspective is trustworthy on this as my family is given to blood feuds! Also, my parents were both hard-core Aquarians and not prone to clinging. I’m going to offer it anyway, just start this conversation.
I just mentioned, Longstanding Disagreements, which has also become a way of life for people as well. But this loss of the mother / son and mother / daughter bond is really disturbing. It’s one of the trends that’s really taken hold. The pain is astounding in many cases. Further, there’s virtually no help, for those who would like to reconnect.
I favor healing these rifts if there is any possible way. I’m not talking about hanging with people who threaten you. I’m talking about possible stubbornness, fear of rejection, possible misunderstanding and the like.
It may be the parent needs to download some type of update, regarding the world today. The child may need to set aside some rage, the often arises during puberty. Take another look at things from a more mature point of view.
Unfortunately, our culture does not encourage this for the same reasons as all the other negativity. It’s easier to control, sell to and even victimize a person who lacks family support.
I want to put this out here so people can discuss it, but also to say I work on these types of situations. It’s typical a person’s friends support and agree with them, never advocating for the other person, who likely has a reason not to contact, that at least has some validity. This is why an outside perspective can really help.
Further, astrology is an enormous help. Case in point, I just spoke with a gal with a child, overwhelmingly Gemini, Sagittarius and Aries. This would be a person who really wants to have their own ideas, independent beliefs and such.
A tiny bit of knowledge like this may be all it takes to engage your loved one in a way they enjoy and appreciate. Quit trying to connect to a point that doesn’t exist? It’s worth the effort.
We suffer as a culture when young people can’t benefit from their elders and vice versa. I mean the idea a 75 year old woman who needs to move to a smaller home, with 40 year old son who won’t help her is… dismal.
What do you know about this?