On the Mars in Scorpio gal, here’s the story…
She’s a hairdresser. She also does waxing and she does a good job. She’s a Pisces with magic and she makes people feel better, regardless of how she feels herself which is often not that well considering she has a Capricorn Moon. And she is just starting out. So when one of her clients asked her to wax this guy… a nudist, she agreed to do it.
So now she’s in a room with this guy and she’s waxing his back. Lying on his stomach, she did not expect him to quietly have an orgasm, however when he got up it was obvious this is what happened and she was shocked and not sure what to do. Should she confront him?
Women don’t really like to confront men. We’re threatened with good reason. She decided to ignore this. Basically she transcended her uncomfortable feelings and tried to be professional. She acted as if he had pissed himself by accident or something and did not draw attention to this. But as she continued to work on him, it became obvious the guy had a kink. And she just wanted him out of her salon. She wanted to get through this ordeal and get this guy out the door but it proved to be very challenging. And at one point he took her hand and placed it on his crotch.
He had a sophisticated diversionary tactic to maneuver her into this. The guy was slick as snot. And feeling she had missed her chance to confront over the semen, she was compliant.
By the time they left the room together, she was completely terrorized so when he casually asked her to book another appointment on his way out the door, she again complied, in shock and on auto-pilot.
Now it took her some days to tell anyone what happened. Because she’s a Pisces, right? And a Capricorn. She was injured but she was going to pretend otherwise. And she was embarrassed over what had happened. And when she did try tell someone he did not her seriously. As a matter of fact, he laughed at her and called her a perv. 🙁
More days passed and then she started mentioning this casually to me and eventually I smelled trouble, big time.
“Look. You don’t have to say anything if you don’t want. But I’m getting the strong impression something has happened to you when you were in that room with that guy. And if something did… it did, didn’t it? Well, I think you might want to tell someone because you’re walking around with whatever it is and it seems to be having a bad effect. Um… it seems to be you are walking a little sideways…”
And this whole thing was a trespass on her boundaries. This was this guy’s gig. He was sneaky. He was masterful at maneuvering himself well into her un-comfort zone, but not so far that she would freak and scream or something. He was able to control her using classic techniques.
And the sneaking was part of his turn-on. She was supposed to be waxing this guy and all the sudden she’s a sex worker, unbeknownst to her! He was not supposed to get off on what she was doing, for chrissakes! She never dreamed…
So anyway, after this came out, she canceled the appointment she made, etc. She actually took responsibility for him:
“I thought I would be comfortable with this, but I’m not,” she said. “I have to cancel… blah, blah.”
And you’d think that would be the end of it. He got his and now he’s going to go away. But noooo…
After a series of emails turning him away, this guy showed up at the salon.He ambushed her. Knowing she was uncomfortable and unable to defend herself, he showed up to make her more uncomfortable by trying to get her to cut his hair! And she made the appointment for him too! Can you believe that? Intimidation.
So anyway, there were more events. And she has Saturn transiting her first house which indicates it is time to learn to defend yourself against just this kind of thing. Boundary violations! And she’s got this Scorpio Mars. So what do you think? Think she ought to use it?
He manipulated her beyond belief. He was able to read her and exploit her weaknesses. He was able to victimize her. And not only did he molest her, when she reacted in a passive manner, he continued to victimize her. So if you’re me….
Well I had to talk to her. I had to get her to see she had a problem. I had to get her to see that she did not have to cut this guy’s hair!
And this was a job, people. She’s sweet, I said. So when I saw her finally spring into action and become willing to use her Mars (her male energy and ability to fight) I was beyond merely thrilled. And I’ll tell you what she did.
She dissected this guy. There is nothing she doesn’t understand about him or what happened in that room. For example, the guy is not a “nudist”. That was part of his ploy. He has no hang ups, so why should she?
You have to admire his skill, really. He was playing a very sophisticated game and has no doubt victimized scores of women, but once she had him sliced open, exposed and sorted, the power shifted. He became transparent and she became the one who was unpredictable.
This story is still unfolding but I will leave you with my friend,cf’s words…
“If you don’t use your Mars it will be used against you.”
Do you use your Mars?