Continuing this series on how astrologers can be skewed when reading charts, this is a good time to mention my own bias: I am biased towards the couple. Barring abuse, I’m geared towards saving a marriage rather than scrapping it.
Many people use astrology to explain why their relationship is not working and impossible. “His Saturn squares my Mars! Consequently nothing can be done and nothing can ever get better!”
This is not true. If you want to be part of a relationship that works, look at people you know who are happily partnered. They’re not necessarily partnered because they’re lucky and you’re not. They generally partnered because decided to work things out.
The potential for this is overlooked by many when judging the synastry between two people. They lose sight of how resilient people are; how smart and creative and adaptable they can be. They forget how time heals wounds and how often problems resolve on their own if a person can be a bit patient.
I’m not saying everyone should stay with whoever, just because. I am saying that many leave relationships, prematurely. Some of them use astrology to do it.
The same astrology can give you a different result. If you see something challenging in the synastry between you and your partner (or friend), think about how it might be channeled in a positive way. If both people want this, it’s really not that hard to manifest. Astrology makes it even easier.
Bottom line, you don’t want to rely so heavily on synastry that you forget that people can and do find ways to get along. This has happened since the beginning of time.
Some people look for the problem, rather than the solution. They leave the relationship, start up another and wind up with the exact same problem they had in the first place. This just seems to be how life works. “Out of the frying pan, into the fire”, as they say.
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