Mercury is in retrograde, I’m a little nervous about the wedding. Actually the plans were fine up until we entered retrograde then it all fell apart. The wedding is still on. Now my fiancé threw a promotion that he received at me. Did he have to accept it no. He really wants the position. So with much discussion and after hours of frustration I said fine, let’s try it. With mercury in a shift I just can’t help but think this is a bad idea considering we would be making a huge move to another state 6 hours north of where we currently live. No friends or family, and I have to leave my current awesome job.
I just can’t get him to see how this is not a good idea. I have read about the dangers of retrograde periods and I just think everything will not turn out as he hopes it will. I can’t get him to change his
mind and feel as if I’m not being listened too. While also feeling like the wedding we have been planning for six months doesn’t matter. All of which I have discussed to him till we’re blue in the face.
I’m a Taurus on the edges of Aries he’s a Sagittarius on the edges of Scorpio. This head butting is driving me crazy and the fact that he won’t see my advice is really nuts. Can people survive a marriage and a promotion during a tumultuous time?
To answer the astrology part of the question, yes a couple can survive their wedding, a move and a promotion all at once, if this is what they want to do. They can easily bond together and get through these things and a lot more.
I doubt this is the core issue. First, I’d point out that people get nervous when planning a wedding. It’s not uncommon that couples fight. It’s greatly stressful. It’s often expensive. Families are involved…never mind you’re making what is meant to be a lifelong commitment. So just keep this in mind. You’re probably both stressed…and then along comes this promotion.
I would consider the retrograde period a chance to (re)consider if you really want to get married. That’s not to suggest that it is a bad idea! I don’t know if it is a bad idea. But I do know that if a couple can’t agree on something and work together to achieve it, you’re going to have a hard time staying married.
I can’t be sure from what you wrote, but it sounds as if your fiance did consult with you before taking the job. That’s good.
Did he wear you down? Sounds like it. But you said, okay, and no you want to renege.
Do you know for sure this is a bad idea? Doesn’t sound like it. Promotions aren’t necessarily easy to come by.
This sounds like a basic power struggle. Once married, who is going to have the final say? Who is going to be the one to sacrifice?
You and then next time, him?
Rather than approach this fearfully, I would try to see it as an opportunity to practice resolving a conflict in your relationship. If you can’t do it – if both of you want to come FIRST at whatever cost, that’s a clear sign that it’s the wedding would be the mistake, not the move.
Back to the astrology; to marry can be seen as a promotion. He’s got another promotion to go with it. Fire sign! He’s on the move! But you’re a Taurus and you’d have innate resistance to chance.
If you’re getting married, that’s change – yes? Do you want this change?
Awesome job or awesome man? Life you have…or life you are going to have, which is unknown?
You didn’t send either chart, but Sagittarius likes to leave. They like to move! Taurus does not. You may be finding out you’re not that well suited to each other. If this is the case, better to know before the wedding.
Last, you say he’s not listening to you, but I doubt this is the case. I’m sure he heard you, blue in the face. He just wants to go and that’s all. So do you still want him?
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