I just turned thirty-five years old and I have only been in one real relationship. It lasted five years, ended badly and since then every time I meet someone things go well at first. I am always hesitant and once I finally get attached and comfortable, they pull away and end up leaving. The only thing I can think of is my 7th house Aquarius Mars. It’s square my Taurus Sun and Mercury and opposite my Leo ascendant.
I’m in the aftermath of a relationship like I mentioned above right now, he’s trying to reconcile and I just keep going back and forth. It’s like I just cannot be happy. I’m sorry if this was too much I just was curious if you had any insight.
Mars in 7th
No, you are not doomed but I am not at all surprised you’re struggling with this. Relationships are a challenge with Mars in the 7th in any sign, never mind Mars in Aquarius with difficult aspects on top of that. I suspect you have a blind spot.
You’re talking to Mars in Libra here, similar to Mars in the 7th, so I’m not being insulting when I say that. I understand this. The problem is internal which is good because this means it’s within your control.
You’re at the age where a person realizes they are the common denominator in all their relationships. The men all leave, but why? This is the piece you need to crack the puzzle.
Satori wrote this:
I wrote this around the solution for the problem. You can also check the Mars in 7th tag.
Back to you personally, Taurus likes peace and stability. Mars in Aquarius loves to disrupt. This alone tells you the discordant energy is internal. I’m not saying your partners are great; I have no idea. But the first step towards resolving this is going to be coming to understand how the other person is experiencing you.
I have this problem too and I’ve definitely realized that I have been the common denominator for why none of my relationships work. I’m definitely trying to work on it, but it’ll probably take awhile before I overcome it.
The relationships I’ve had (I can count on one hand) have never lasted a year because I broke them off. It’s like one day I wake up and I’m like “NOPE! I’ve had enough of xyz” and then I end it. I really wanted my last relationship to work and thought I’d marry them, but it got super rocky during the quarantine (and honestly, the whole relationship was rocky and intense anyway). I had a dream one night of him and his brother making plans to harm me. It felt like a vision of the future and that if I stayed and left later down the line, this would happen. So I ended it. And it’s always kind of been like that. Most times I’d end it before it even began.
Maybe I’m crazy? Maybe it’s because I never really grew up in a stable household so I couldn’t trust people. Maybe it’s because my father was mean as hell growing up and I’ve caught him cheating on my mom before under the guise of “religion”. Maybe it’s because I never believed I was worthy of love, only to just care for other people but never be truly cared for. It’s a lot of deep rooted stuff that I’m still dealing with, but I know my relationship dilemma will never get solved until I figure my shit out more.
Libra Rising, 9H Cancer Sun/Moon/Venus sextile 7H Taurus Mars which is square my 4H Aquarius Saturn and 10H Leo, and opposite 1H Pluto. My Venus is also opposite Uranus. I will intensely care for you until one day, I don’t, romantically. It’s sad. I will change it though.
Try having Mars in 7th, in its fall (Cancer), stationary direct, and square Pluto!
Not exactly a ticket to white picket fence fairy tale bliss 🤦 the fence has been spray painted, stampeded on by disgruntled elephants, and then set on fire! 😂
I have Mars in the 7th (although in Pisces), and it squares both my sun and Saturn, which oppose each other. Basically I used to be a short tempered pain in the ass, and I was definitely prone to projecting. I finally had a grand epiphany somewhere along the line and have gotten much better behaved and tolerant of people.
i have a 7th house pisces mars square neptune. at this point i’m pretty paranoid about deception, gaslighting, and manipulation, but i’ve been known to trick myself into seeing what i want to believe, too.
i know what i want, but i don’t know how to find it. for that matter i’m not sure it exists!