I was working with a long-time client who has been trained to think and act, tactically. With Mars (tactics) conjunct Mercury (mind) in my chart, I mesh easily with this sort of person. I love writing to her, because I know that above all, she wants to be effective in her life.
It’s easy for us fighter-types to get cross-ways with someone. If it’s someone you’re stuck with, like a family member or a spouse, the pain is often deep and the stakes, high.
If Mars is strong in your chart it’s easy to become so “fighting mad” that you lose yourself in the conflict. You get locked into battle, and you lose your tactics.
In this case, the client was in a horrible stand-off. She was ready to “kill” her opponent, who right or wrong, was as stubborn and equipped as she was, probably because they’re related!
Murder was not possible, of course. Nor was amputation of the relationship, so I had to come up with some tactics that would change the dynamic so my client could prevail.
“I hope you see the plan here. It’s to slowly land the plane. You want to slowly move it away from the turbulent jet stream into something that will be easier to bear. But this requires you to consciously want to stop the fighting, and commit to that…”
That last sentence was crucial. People want to win, but they also want to win on their own terms. When that’s not possible, then what, hmm?
Mars is covered in Chapter 6: Drive and Ambition: How You Achieve Your Goals of my. Check it out!