I am a Scorpio woman married to a Pisces man. We are sexually incompatible. He is not willing to do what I need to be sexually satisfied. We have talked about it many times before, and still I spend my sexual encounters with him unfulfilled (plus they are now down to once a month). I have gotten to the point where I am uninterested and bored, and I’m wondering now – six and a half years into this marriage – if this is what I really want for the rest of my life.
I have a huge sex drive and spend more time satisfying myself by thinking of sexual scenarios that <em>don’t</em> involve my husband. What should I do? I am extremely unfulfilled!! I have started to feel indifferent about the entire situation, but my lack of being sexually satisfied is a deep resentment I hold against him. Help.
I have been in your circumstance and I am afraid I don’t have good news. I have never seen a person with a low sex drive all the sudden spring to life and become a five alarm fire. I have also never seen a person like you lose interest in sex. On the contrary when people exist at opposite poles like this, the gap seems to widen. Slowly at first, but eventually it gets where you are now: once-a-month sex, and up the road, once every two months, and eventually never at all.
There is no way I can tell you to leave your husband. But I can tell you of my experience with this, which has been very similar to the experience of others I know. That is, horny people like you who have been in these no-sex or low-sex situations.
What happens is eventually you leave because it just becomes unbearable. And you wind up with someone with drives and desires more like your own and the result is BLISS! And then you look back on how you were living in this constant state of hunger and you wonder how you did it. You know why you did it. Loyalty! But how is hard to fathom.
So I don’t have advice, just information. What you do is up to you.