I’ve been going out with my Pisces boyfriend officially for 5 months now. He shared with me how his ex broke his heart and that was the first girl & only girl he ever loved. He says that he is now guarded against love but says that love is still an option but it will take time.
However, whenever I found out that he still keeps in contact with his ex I was very bothered. He continues to call and text her. I told him that I don’t understand why since she cheated on him and lied to him, why he still wants to stay in touch with her. I told him that I believe he still has feelings for her and he swears that he doesn’t, but he still calls to check on her and shows his concern for her when he thinks she’s in trouble or has a need. She also contacts him and asks to see him. I don’t know if they have seen each other because when I asked him he says that he should not have to answer to my insecurities. Also he easily blows me off on his bad days but in the meantime still texts her on days he completely ignores me.
Am I just being too insecure? Will he ever love me and be completely over her? Is their friendship harmless? Once he loves me, is he going to love me more than he ever loved her and put her in the back of his mind? Please help. Before I read about Pisces, I made the mistake of confronting him and expressing my jealousy toward his ex and another female friend he has that I also feel intimidated by. I invaded his privacy and found out calls he was making to both of them. I confessed that I did but since then he barely calls them but is still texting is ex mostly more than calling since he knows I can screen his calls.
Aries in Love
I am not insecure, but I would become that way very swiftly if my boyfriend treated me the way yours treats you. Let’s see. He tells you he does not love you… but he may in the future, if what? If you work for it? Gah.
He tells you there is another girl, a girl who is not you and he says he has loved her very much. Ouch.
He remains in contact with her even though she treated him poorly and you love and appreciate him and when you tell him this bothers you (who in their right mind would it not bother?) he insults you by telling you that you are flawed (insecure) and he (who is elevated) does not have to kowtow to you (who is lowly). Are you getting the picture here? This guy is a jerk! But let me answer your specific questions:
Am I just being too insecure? No.
Will he ever love me and be completely over her? No.
Is their friendship harmless? To you? No.
Once he loves me is he going to love me more than he ever loved her and put her in the back of his mind? No. But this is not your fault. I don’t think he loves you but I don’t think he loves her either. I don’t think a guy like this knows how to love.
Advice? Dump this guy right on his head and resolve to never play second fiddle again when it comes to a man. You’re an Aries! That means you come first or heads should roll.