Lower Your Expectations – Is This A New Trend?
“Did you advise your friend one way or the other on this?”
I would like to clarify; when I used the phrase “lower your standards”, I was not thinking about “settling”. I was thinking about the idea most relationships fail because people expect too much of them. And this doesn’t have anything to do with “settling”.
It has to do with expecting another person to make your life okay. Or expecting them to solve all problems, both yours and their own. It has to do with expecting them to make up for the times that others have let you down and just in general, expecting them to be super-human.
Because the fact is we are all besieged more often than not and if you have the expectation this other person should do, x,y,z, so that things will be better for you, are you considering they have their own life to manage? Would your relationship fare better if you took care of x and y yourself and just asked for z? Probably. I think not only would your relationships fare better; you would fare better as well because you would gain confidence. This is like building your own stock.
I think people trash perfectly good relationships by having unrealistic expectations of what another can do to fulfill your life. Because in reality there is very little another person can do.
Where is your Venus?