I am not sure I came across in the last blog so I am going to try again.
The soldier is extending himself. He is stretching because I am effusive and he is regular so he does not think I necessarily understand that he is content and he is right. I do not understand so basically he’s put his mind to how he might remedy this and he’s decided to try to learn this new language.
It’s a gesture like my learning to cook his home food and the main thing I see is people won’t do this. They will extend themselves if and only if the other person does x,y,z, proves a,b and c and love just does not thrive in that environment.
“If he would do this, then I would do that…”
Just do the damned thing!
Here is a tip for Venus Saturn (restriction) types from a Venus Neptune (higher octave of Venus type): If you are a loving person, you cannot go wrong. If you give your love freely regardless of what the other person does, you are never going to lack for a partner or people who love you. So what if someone withholds? So what if someone is limited? Does this mean you have to follow suit? I think that’s a mistake.
Give your love on faith knowing it will come back to you somehow from someone somewhere and even if it doesn’t you will still be better off then sitting in your bedroom, miserly counting beans and tit for tat. I have never understood withholding love, affection, sex or whatever… and I just mentioned this to the soldier:
“…I am writing about people withhold love and affection,” I said. “They are not going to love you unless you do all these certain things. You have to meet some criteria and then they will turn on their love.”
“Well most people are like that,” he said.
“I know. They don’t realize it will never lead them to happiness so I am saying so. They are going to be loving only if certain conditions are met.”
“And even if you meet them, they still won’t do it.”
“No, they just come up with more conditions.”
Sorry, but this is a law of the universe. Loving people love, period. And if you are not a loving person what in the world makes you think someone will love you?
Are you a loving person?