I responded to a thread in the forum, regarding men and their relationships to their mothers:
“I wouldn’t go near a man who dogged his mother. Even if she is a first rate nut job, he still better show some deference and respect otherwise – out the door!
That said, a man enmeshed with his mother is out the door even faster.
Best is a man who accepts him mom with her faults, which he can see. I was told many years ago, they’ll treat you exactly as they do their mother and I’ve found this to be very true.”
Generally speaking, it is around the time of the Saturn return (29-ish); a person starts to have a realistic view of their parent. This is rarely an easy process.
Some become disillusioned with their parent. Others who have rebelled begin to see their parent isn’t quite as stupid as they thought.
Some see their parents aging for the first time. This forces the realization that the parent is human and fallible. Others look in the mirror and see their parent’s face looking back.
Still others realize the enormous impact their parents have had on them. In the cases where there’s been a divorce, a person who has always sided with one parent may begin to see there are two sides to the story.
If you’ve lost a parent due death or divorce, this really hits home at this time. The lack! And as grueling as this process might be, it’s imperative a person go through it to complete the maturation process.
Do you have a realistic view of your parents?