There are people who tend to love/hate the people they interact with. I also think there are people that others tend to love and hate and I am one of them. I would say at least 80% of my relationships take this form.
My friend, Ben put me on this 25 years ago when he told that the degree that people liked me was dependent on how comfortable they were in their own un-comfort zone (tag – un-comfort). I didn’t know what he was talking about at first so I asked for clarification. He said I challenged people. He said I made people uncomfortable and while he liked this, not everyone did.
I was pretty disturbed by this at the time. I have Libra and I want to get along with people. I want to be congenial. I also have Capricorn, so I am sensitive to rejection and prone to feeling flawed anyway, so this was really upsetting at the time. It was like finding out I had this cloud of farts around me, at all time.
I also had to come to terms with the fact there was nothing I could do about it, because we’re talking about my energy here. We’re talking about my essence. I would essentially have to cut my head off to alter this. It’s something I exude.
Many years have passes since then. Writing this blog as exposed to me many people around the world and I have seen this pattern constellate, probably 1000 times. I’d be okay. I’d be wonderful, if only fill-in-the-blank.
“You’d be beautiful, if only you’d lose some weight”.
A person who says something like that is mad because you don’t fit their ideal. What do you want to bet there are women out there who have heard that over, and over and over and over in their life? I bet this is the case. People want to love a person, but something is wrong, so they dump a bucket of pus on them. What does this help, anyway? Does anyone derive a benefit? You’re already disappointed in the person and what does the pus do in this scenario?
Saturn in Scorpio, ya’ll.
On the upside, there are people who are not at all prone to feeling love/hate for a person. My husband is like this.
“What do you think when you hear love/hate?” I asked.
“Fruit of the loom,” he responded. He’s a Taurus, he keeps it simple.
Do you often have ambivalent feelings about others? Where do you think they come from? Did one or both of your parents love, but hate you?