I’ve been listening to music I like, music I listened to in my 20’s and it’s impossible to miss the common denominator. I primarily like male singer-songwriters and invariably they’re men who love women.
Some of them pine, some of them work for love, some of them strive for love or wish to co-operate with the woman in their life to work out a problem. Some of them out and out slobber over the appeal of some gal; they’re just crazy for her and I realize very clearly that growing up listening to music like this set the standard for me.
As an effect of this when I ran across a man who did not respect a woman, I was done with him in an hour if not minutes because he just wasn’t in the movie I had in my head. I try to think about women who younger than I am. I have to because I work with a lot of them and it’s important I be familiar with what their standards are and where they originate from if at all possible.
I see women settle for and accept very little from men as a matter of routine. It makes me uncomfortable and so I spend a few days escaping (Venus Neptune / music) back into my world where men love and cherish and respect women… who warranted it by the way.
I thought of Valentine’s Day last week. It’s almost considered rude these days to celebrate it as many are without love and we have a culture that doesn’t want anyone to feel bad. I thought about it and then decided to put hearts on my twitter page anyway.
I didn’t do it to be rude. I did it because I love, love. I love partnering and I don’t think people like me have ceased to exist.
Surely there are people out there with Libra in their chart. Surely some have 7th house Suns or stelliums in the 7th. Surely there are others who really very badly want to be partnered, as I did from as long as I can remember.
Considering this, I think I should be the music I listened to when I was young. Let it be out there somewhere in the world, a message that love exists and it is glorious and it moves you. You can love someone to the bone and be loved like that in return. You can live like this even if you’re the only one on your block or in your building that does.
On the balance thing, my challenge is in straddling the gap between the way I idealize love and the jaded, harsh and sometimes devastating results of love that characterize so many people’s experience. I also have to balance my own bias in order to be effective… at anything. This is personal to me, with Mars in Libra. Last, I am a Saturn-ruled person. With Saturn in love’s sign, Libra, I feel responsible to stand for love in a mature way, as an elder so this year, it’s GAME ON for Valentine’s Day.
If you don’t like candy hearts; if you think the whole thing is sickeningly sweet and commercial, that’s fine. But some us think it is appropriate to celebrate love and loving so if you’re one of these people, this blog is for you!
Anyone other LOVERS wanna come out of the closet?