Some people tend to wind up in unfathomable situations. The person might be at fault, partially at fault, or completely innocent in my experience. The kind of thing I’m talking about is usually Scorpio, Pluto or 8th house related. Unfathomable, see?
I’ve had this happen to me more than once and also more than twice and in fact, more than three times.. etc. It’s not happening now but it is happening to one of my clients and every single person she knows, has left her, betrayed her, slid of the road into a ditch, blames her, whatever they have to do to not be in the vicinity of such pain and…velocity.
I know how painful it is when people you’ve known for years and who you may have trusted, completely, turn their back on you. But I’m no longer stunned when I see this happen to me or anyone else. If people can’t stand the heat in the kitchen, they should get out. If you’re just going to stand around and stare as someone’s house burns to the ground, it really is better to clear out. A person in a circumstances is generally racking up losses a mile a minute, so you can just be part of that.
I’ve been down to ONE friend more than once in life. I have also been the one friend left standing more than once. Ben and I are like this. We’ve experienced this in both directions, several years apart.
I’m thinking about this today, because the client in an unfathomable situation and she is down to me. It got me thinking about why people, flee. I think it’s self-protective and I also think this is fine, though it’s a bit amusing because Scorpio is supposed to be the sign that is self-protective.
I don’t think that’s the only reason. Often times these situations are dangerous or put a person at risk. For example, have you ever tried to help a battered woman. It takes a lot of courage. It also take a lot of brains because and care and energy of all times, because the battered can harm or kill the person you’re trying to help when they sense a situation changing.
If you’re really dealing with a psycho(s), they will persecute anyone who tries to help you so it can be scary.
You see, I see there are good reasons to split, but there are also good reasons to stay. Would I have been there for, Ben, had he not been there for me? I can say, yes, all day, but maybe the intense time built my character. Maybe he demonstrated how this is done – he was the only person I spoke with for 18 months. I just had to get through something.
I don’t that people tend to reunite with their abandoning friend and family once a situation like this clears. It isn’t necessarily a grudge. It’s the fact, these experiences change a person; transform them, is probably what I would say. If they couldn’t fathom you then when you we’re still kind of yourself, how are they going to handle you now, forged like steel?
I’m just thinking back tonight, about the aftermath of an episode like this. The two years I could not walk into my daughter’s bedroom… when the front porch light of my house burned out and I left it that way for two years, while I started writing about “stigmatized homes”.
I got to a point where I would walk out the front door and sit on the stoop a few minutes at a time, during the day. By then, I didn’t miss anyone who’d left. I was pretty cried out and if anything, I was glad I didn’t have to look at anyone, never mind try to explain anything to them. It was a relief.
For some reason, writing this made me think of the time I met Ronald McDonald. I warn you, it’s sad.
Can you relate?