Losing Friends During A Pluto Transit Through The 11th House

Vintage pluto clippimhTransiting Pluto is now firmly in my twelfth house. It occurred to me, I have hardly any friends left post it’s transit of my eleventh. Pluto is such a slow moving planet it is hard to assimilate or track its effects as it moves through a house in your chart. This is a ten-year transit, give or take; for a moment there I had a glimpse of awareness. I thought I’d mark it for Google purposes. If someone plugs in “Pluto transit the eleventh”, this will come up.

The first wave of friends dropped off when I had a baby. It’s common when you transition from “no kids” to parenthood. All your friends with no children disappear and it’s easy to see why. You become consumed with your baby and your childless friends can just not relate. You are also tired and you are busy and all the things that interested you before seem less important and so a separation occurs.

In my case, my best friend at the time had an abortion right as I was having a baby and she just didn’t want to be around me after that. We had taken these different paths and she just didn’t want to see me with my baby.

Time passed and more friends fell but I simultaneously made new friends, and the new friends were powerful across the board in one way or the other and healing to me. I forged what I thought was going to be lifelong friendships as I am prone to have but in this last year as Pluto wrapped up in my eleventh house I watched in horror as one friend after another took an off ramp.

kidneyEven in the midst of this, I could see how I would benefit. I could be losing friends left and right… suffering epic betrayals and still see how things would come out okay in the end. This is just my personality.

Some of these relationships were decades old so it was like being betrayed by one of your organs or something. Whoops! There goes a kidney, but what are you going to do? If your kidney goes south, it goes south. It has got to be removed from the body or else so you really learn to let go, at least I did.

Eventually I threw open all the windows and all the doors so if they could go they could all go together understanding I would not lose anything I could not do without.

Have you ever suffered a wipe out like this? How did you cope?

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Losing Friends During A Pluto Transit Through The 11th House — 69 Comments

  1. Hi Elsa, I have currently the transit of Pluto going through my 11th house and I can definitely relate to what you said. It is so true.

  2. Me too! Pluto is wreaking havoc. I have no friends! They’ve all dropped off the face of the planet. I would probably feel more horrible about it if I didn’t know anything about astrology and Pluto and the 11th house. It’s really been helpful to know it’s not permanent.

  3. My friendships disappeared when Pluto transited my 11th, and as for coping it’s difficult to pinpoint what I did to cope.
    Pluto entered my 12th House when I was 18 and embarking upon true adulthood, so my take on it is defined by age…

    I found being a teenager excruciatingly painful, and knowing I had Pluto in the 11th for much of it helps me not to cringe so much when I look back.

    • I understand stand exactly what happened with you, I have Pluto in the 2nd half of my 10th house natally. I also had a difficult time with friends in my teens

  4. Now past the wondering why my numbers of friends were thinning out, the transformation of house 11 is almost complete. I have one who is hanging on, but am ready to let them go if they so choose. A very thorough process creating a different pair of glasses to filter future friendships. Superficial (though good for entertainment)will not be acceptable as part of my inner circle. If they are not “on a path,” they no longer appear as blips on my radar… A very powerful process that has forced me to become more selective for sure! I am grateful.

    To those who are just beginning the pluto/11th journey, know that it is for the best in the long run.

  5. Truth is Elsa P, that you do have friends, but we’re all out here in happy Internet land and are as busy maintaining our sites as you are maintaining yours. Those are the sort of friends that Pluto thru the Eleventh brings you in the end.

    With 24/7 updates and so much effort, your old regular world friends are not the focus of your attention anymore, so by checking for them you’re just looking in the wrong place that’s all.

    But friends you have plenty and I’m one of them. Talk to me anytime…

    I think you’re great and so do many others I’m sure.

    ;o)

    Paul

  6. I went and checked the time period when Pluto was transited my 11th House and now realize why it seemed I was always moving on, leaving friends behind. In fact, there are very, very few people I met during that time period whom I still see occasionally in passing. I am amazed by those whose friendships last for many, many years. My dad & his best friend from childhood remain friends to this day!

    Pluto’s lessons in detachment have stayed with me and I am still wary of expectations in any way, shape or form when it comes to other people.

  7. same here, pluto transiting my 11th, but as an airy gemini, always have people entering and exiting my life. what i HAVE noticed is that a lot of my work now concerns community issues…more outwardly driven and general. (also have pluto conj chiron right now in the 11th, was dreading it, but with the exception of my on-again-off-again man friend taking off –again– it’s been all good…)

  8. I have to admit I’m kinda envious here, because at least the transit passes — I have Pluto in the 11th natally, and it’s been a lifelong painful issue for me, what with usually having very few friends, and then those I become close with abruptly disappearing, being scapegoated by groups of peers, carrying the shadow…not fun. I think I’m starting to finally find a few useful parts of this placement, but it’s been one of my more difficult processes. I wish I could do this transit for 10 years and then it be over with.

  9. Pluto is on it’s way to my 11th house, but not for a bit, and I am so glad to know this though. I think maybe it’s starting a bit early for me because I have spent the whole week crying about it, and I won’t anymore. Sometimes old shit just doesn’t work anymore.

    It is really reassuring because I’ve been at my wits end wondering what the hell is wrong with me. Ohh Pluto, you’re like an old friend now yourself.

  10. wow ditto for me as well, elsa et al above. i’ve been reading your blog for about 2 yrs now as well as posting occasionally..for sometime i have begun to suspect that that i have a similar house/rising sign setup as elsa alludes to and this posting nailed it..over the last ten or 11 yrs, starting with me leaving my fiance (the guy i had been with for almost 10 yrs prior & it turns out his occurred around the same time as my first saturn return, so started the rolling over of so many people i thought would be in my life for the long haul…at around the same time as that is when i started to explore astrology in more than just a supericial manner…its been ten years hence & what a emotional rollercoaster its been – the betrayals, the seeing through to the hidden agendas of so many & the unearthening of falsehoods – both my own and others…and now that pluto is at the very end of my 11th house i have indeed come to a point where i can indeed see that i have lost many friends & how that was needed in order to make room for the ones to come! those more in line with the path that pluto has plowed for me to follow – my intuitions are guiding my actions as never before and the friends that come in and the few that remain are there to help resonant with my intentions to keep along this new route…taking up astrology and trusting in developing & using the esoteric knowledge needed to understand its ‘signposts’, has been of enormous benefit..most i can see dont get it but having pluto transit over & through your midheaven and well into the house of friends & aspirations will do that – if you are lucky enough to be open to it! and thats key isnt it? being open and not fight it…u’ll be left with less that will eventually & profoundly yield more. i am still learning and am in awe of much of the artful insightfuls provided with a study of astrology.

  11. Elsa, my dear, you have friends in “High Places”! How fair would that be for you to have earthly friends as well? ; )

    It is tough to have a Pluto transit to the 11th because friends appear to be such a valuable commodity in a society based on “networks” and the like. I think their value way over rated and I am not saying this just because I am like L. in that I have Pluto living in my 11th House.

    Personally, I like Pluto and Uranus setting up house here. I’ve been afforded the opportunity to meet some unique and powerful people as well as learn to be my own best friend.

    It could not have worked out better.

  12. saturn through the eleventh left me pretty isolated, but it also taught me to value the friendships i had, even if distant.

    grandpa died shortly after pluto moved into the fourth, and i’m afraid grandma’s going to leave before it’s done. that will make it really hard for their ranch (the center of my idea of home) to feel the same for me.
    but we’ll see.
    i’ll have to see if i can pick out the effects of him moving through the third and second (my natal placement.) though we stopped being poor after pluto went into the third, so i can see that effect. in my case natal pluto has led to a certain sort of “poverty consciousness” that i’ve been working at clearing for a bit. (my sister says “the universe just doesn’t seem to want you to have money” but i think it’s me.)

  13. Yep, Pluto went through my 11th house right through my teenage years. They weren’t much fun. Many friends dropped off the face of the earth toward the end of the period, but seem to be coming back now during this Mercury transit through Aquarius via Facebook! Strange experience I’m still trying to process.

  14. Seems like Pluto affects communication and relationships when it moves into the air houses.

    Pluto just went into my 9th house, so I won’t experience this transit for a long time. However…just as I entered my teen years, Pluto went into my 7th house, and remained there until I was well into my 20s. Talk about isolating. Not only that, Pluto started squaring my Sun when I entered college. Those were painful and sometimes lonely years for me–though I did make friends who were “keepers”. I didn’t realize it at the time, but the vibes I was giving off were way too intense for a lot of people to handle. People who just wanted to have fun didn’t want to deal with someone who was in the middle of painfully transforming right before their eyes.

    Our culture doesn’t seem to know what to do with inwardly-focused people and feelings. Which leads me to believe that a lot of people don’t know how to handle these Pluto transits. They need to come here! 😉

  15. I had Pluto in the 11th all through my childhood. That was the most horrible experience, I felt so isolated and alone. I could not wait to grow up. Thankfully, I had Pluto transiting Scorpio through my teens and early twenties, so I made up for it by massive partying. Boy, did I get laid!

  16. I keep looking behind me to see who it is that everyone keeps callin’ “sweet”…but I’m not finding them?…. Could it be my shadow that is “sweet”?

    I am not sweet, Elsa, but rather just honest. I chuckle at the thought of anyone mistaking me for sweet. : )

    Love your candor. Love your wisdom. Love you!

  17. I don’t know enough about my chart or the way to interpret it, but from what I’ve read here, I can see that the events of the past eight years must have been influenced by a Pluto-Saturn placement. First my husband of 23 years, then long-time friends and even relatives betrayed and abandoned, one after the other. Shell-shocked I decided it was all my own fault (didn’t know anything about Pluto then) and forced myself to look in the mirror and make some changes. Now I see it was not all my fault, but am reaping the benefits of being forced to get honest, and like others have said here, I am now my own best friend and I certainly like myself better. Very difficult, painful and lonely, but very worthwhile and productive! Thank you, Elsa, and all the other posters, for this most valuable discussion.

  18. Bravo, peppermint! It takes a really loving individual to fix themselves so that others may enjoy sharing their field of energy.

    You did something that only a few are willing to do. That is an acheivement that warrants a degree!
    Wouldn’t that be the coolest thing if all that was required in life was to have a degree in becoming human then we could get on with the business of reaping the rewards of this monumnetal acheivemnet?

    I like people who do their homework… 🙂

  19. Bravo, peppermint! It takes a really loving individual to fix themselves so that others may enjoy sharing their field of energy.

    You did something that only a few are willing to do. That is an acheivement that warrants a degree!
    Wouldn’t that be the coolest thing if all that was required in life was to have a degree in becoming human then we could get on with the business of reaping the rewards of this monumnetal acheivement?

    I like people who do their homework… 🙂

  20. Jamie:

    Thank you for your kind and encouraging words. Yes, this world would be a much better place if we all were focused on getting our degree in becoming human – so much better. With folks like you to cheer and encourage and spread the joy around – that would be the best!

    Thanks again for your sunshiney words.

  21. Sorry you had to read it twice, though, peppermint. Don’t know what happened?

    No, no! It’s all about you! If truth be told it is the act of fixing oneself that encourages love to flourish and the sun to perpetually shine.

    You are most deserved of praise….plus I’m very partial to anyone who has the name peppermint ,
    as in Peppermint Patty. 😀

  22. Hi all,

    I am having pluto transiting my 11th house and yes I a losing my friends but more so because of myself. I simply have no wish to see any of them.

  23. I lost a lot of friends over the past 2 years but if was the Uranus transit not the Pluto one [which I will not have this lifetime] Pluto is more final so I am hoping they may come back later when Uranus has gone……..they are also acting weirdly…. My friend with Pluto in 11th natally says everyone she ever knows goes away one way or another I am one of her oldest friends but I am a Plutonian type {Sun conj Pluto] so they are maybe the ones you keep or meet My daughter had 11th house P transit as a teenager and she got close to two girls whose dads abused them altho she had no background of this……

    • Thanks for that Anju.
      It is comforting when astrology explains the reasons for the heavy changes. My problem is trying not to anticipate horrible things when I see a difficult transit approach. Chiron in 11th seems to be doing an efficient job of ending friendships like Pluto does. But should we not meet Plutonian flavour or Chiron flavour friends at this time too? Not having a partner, I could do with that!!’ I AM teaching a healing modality to a group tho.which is v Chiron.

  24. Thank you so much for this post. I didn’t make the connection to relationships and Pluto until reading everything you’ve all written here.

    I had a great time with Pluto in my 11th; I connected with very conscious groups and it helped shape me into who I am today.

    I left a great deal of that in the past 6-7 years with pluto in my 12th house, and I noticed that friends are around but I don’t sense them closely because I am so inwardly focused. I’m approaching a Pluto conjunction to my ascendant and moon pretty soon, and feel like the ride is not over yet…

    I think while facing these challenges, studying astrology and approaching this work with the intention of it ultimately being therapeutic and cathartic and “for my highest good” is the key and saving grace. WHEWWWW! 😉

    for those who feel friendless: I consider this shared ‘Awareness’ a friend to us all and which connects us all. Be well.

  25. I know this is an old blog, but I have to just get this out!:

    I thought I was the only one going through this! I find myself saying that a lot on this board! Pluto went through my 11th during my teens and early 20s and I don’t have the friends from those days anymore and that is a good thing. I had one of those toxic friend groups where all we did was put each other down either with sarcasm, backhanded compliments or just flat out rudeness and immaturity. I am grateful that I split from them because I have learned so much about myself. I learned that I am naturally an optimist, affectionate and a “yay!” person so the sarcastic, mean girl schtick didn’t suit me. I now know that better off with having many acquaintances with stronger personalities instead of a group of people who will use your weaknesses or secrets against you, to make themselves feel better. This has been hard, especially since I have Neptune in the 11th natally so it is hard to tell the true from the imposters to begin with. However, because of this transit, I learned to keep it light, positive and upbeat with my acquantances – not everyone has to be attached to my hip!

  26. Here i am, picking up old threads again. This is a good one. I don’t know when Pluto transited my 11th house, but I can tell you the friends have been dropping out, exiting left and right during the last decade; and I know the ones who aren’t here are the ones that no longer support my quirky life. The picture of the kidney/organ no longer functioning strikes at a very visceral level, Elsa. Organic loss. Okay!

    How do you look for when Pluto transits(transited) the 11th house?

  27. I’ve cleaned house of so called “friends,” (backbiting, two faced, agenda saturated assholes.)
    I didn’t chalk it up to transiting Pluto in the 11th. My Natal chart has nothing in the houses past the 6th house so 7/8/9/10/11/12 zippo, nothing. I would like to meet some new people but I’m so gun shy after what I’ve encountered the last 9 years, that when I meet someone I’d like to be friends with, I ask myself: how long is this going to last and how badly will it end? I’m a great friend but I find people end up being jealous of me for some reason. WOmen have major problems with me right off the bat, I don’t even have to open my mouth – all i need to do is show up. WOmen are horrible to each other! And women need other women the most. Why is this?

  28. I have a grand cross with saturn in the 11th, opposite mercury in the 5th, square pluto/jupiter in the 8th, and square moon in 2nd. So every 7 years I loose my major relationship. First it was my childhood friend to a move, my high school boyfriend to a girlfriend, then a baby, then my husband, then my best friend, then my boyfriend, and then my second husband. Luckily, I’m only 53 and saturn just took a slow move through Virgo, so I’ve got a few years to go before this happens again, I hope.

    I have to tell you that I wonder, when I begin a relationship, how long I have before the expiration date when saturn hits another arm of the cross.

  29. hey, guys i am new to astrology, done my chart and i have neptune in 11th, just finished a pluto transit over my 11th,plus going through my saturn return, felt an incredible loneliness and all your comments ring so true to me, i am literally crying my heart out as i write this, cause i did not know this whole dynamic and it all makes sense now. Downtomars i can totally relate to that whole “hard to tell the true from the imposters”, after my so called friends after a lot of drama all vanished somehow (pluto conjunct neptune – boy did i feel the reality check about the illusion i had of my friends ) and even now when some new people are coming into my life (again people who are very Neptuny) i approach and view the whole friendship thing differently, I am just not comfortable and i am very hesitant, it just feels like i’m gonna fool myself again, except that this time i’m aware of it.

  30. If one could die of a bout of loneliness, I would have been gone long ago. Well if I could get something positive out of Pluto transiting the 11th house I would have to surmise this: develop and use your intuition when it comes to making friends. Try and be as self sufficient as possible. But really, the most important security measure you can have is that little voice, your gut feeling.
    You can learn so much about who you are and what you’re made of when you are totally alone. You might be physically alone but there are a host of unseen friends always around you. Know that you are never totally alone. A better world is coming.

  31. That remark about your being inner focussed helps me understand why mu daughter is so distant at the moment It is a bit of a relief to know why Pluto just got to her 12th house……..

    • My daughter has got that too and she too is like that. Hmmm………… So there is light at the end of the tunnel altho Pluto to 1 is not always a picnic. But I have known it to be very positive in some people’s lives.

  32. In this fast paced ever changing world you can almost see how people come and go in one’s life. We go thru stages on many levels and I think friends reflect that. It is probably when you reach a certain level of maturity and self awareness that the friends you make are of a better quality. I think it’s important to have friends, REAL friends, the kind you can call at 3 a.m. for any situation. Friends that are akin to your spiritual alignment. There can be so much drama, focus on agenda and exploitation in friendship these days. No doubt, the Art of Friendship is going thru a transformation. People are really going to understand what friendship is. But I believe a better world awaits when it will be easier to have good and positive friends.

  33. Pluto’s been transiting my 2nd for years and years. During that time, my entire immediate family (parents and sibs, aunts and uncles) either died or became estranged from me. The people I had been closest to for a decade were off the map.

    I know this is a late post on this thread. But I’d like to say in this place that it has been brutal, and well, brutal. Also purposeful, and all of a sudden, like now, one of those close families has cropped up. We spent the 4th of July with them. I felt I was a strong supporter through many traumas, and felt ditched at the time they left. They are doing very well now, in many ways, and it’s like they’ve come to the back of the train to hold a hand out to me, who’s chasing after it. I am working on forgiveness, adjustment, and optimism.

  34. Things must be running ahead of schedule for me because I’ve experienced all this regarding ‘friends’ or people I was connected with – mainly online – while Pluto was at the end of my 10th house transit. I’ve dealt with the betrayal (and one of them dealt with business – where I wound up not getting a fair amount of money that was due to me – a bit over $230).

    So…I pretty much have the attitude of “What doesn’t kill me makes me stronger.”

    Bring it on Pluto – let’s destroy together. *evil grin*

  35. mimi mottet

    If one could die of a bout of loneliness, I would have been gone long ago. Well if I could get something positive out of Pluto transiting the 11th house I would have to surmise this: develop and use your intuition when it comes to making friends. Try and be as self sufficient as possible. But really, the most important security measure you can have is that little voice, your gut feeling.
    You can learn so much about who you are and what you’re made of when you are totally alone. You might be physically alone but there are a host of unseen friends always around you. Know that you are never totally alone. A better world is coming.

    ________________________

    This sums up my life in a nutshell.

  36. Awww…came across this looking for Solar Return pluto in 11th and have to say the effects feel much the same. Saw this last night and wrote a long pitiful missive but lost it – LOL!

    I agree – I feel sooo lonely – and cut off from usual things it’s odd & I’m quite Pluto & Uranus friendly too. Ironically, my situation is opposite of one mentioned above – the last mohican singleton in a sea or married/coupled families or… stuck between some REALLY crazy unreliables or users who are not there for me. HELP!! Where are my people??!
    Whether I did the leaving, or they did, it’s like I have a bubble around me that I am functioning but no one comes close.
    What I HAVE had is a ton of online type communication and, do also find myself working on an online project that has to do w/ community and metaphysical things. I am also markedly more interested in community & civic things and feeling a deeper sense of values which I think – has helped me walk away from those no-good situations & folks I used to tolerate.

    Seems mine started a bit early too. A few months before, I moved neighborhoods, cut off all the bad stuff and the online project I’d been working on for a year plus finally started to really take hold.

    The last several years have been dynamic and tough for everyone – it’s hard to know just what all is doing it – Saturn just left my 1st, all the outer planets conjuncting, squaring or opposing most of my major planets and nodes, Pluto burning it’s way thru my 4th, Uranus in my 7th…and Saturn now heading for my Moon. UGH!!

    I think I made it through the worst. For a long time, I had NO desire to relate to anybody or be involved w/ anything it was pure upheaval/chaos. That’s coming back now in a big way, which I think is actually a good sign but it’s awkward and hard – definitely outta my comfort zone!

    Hang in there everybody! It’s hard to let go and make space – trusting that something better will come along – but if ever you want to see the Universe in action, clean out and see what comes in! I agree – you will be a much better, “truer” person on the other side and anything that makes it thru – will stay with you for good. ;}

  37. Hi pluto transit the 11th house friends…
    Thanks so much for all of this… I have pluto transit my 11th house and I had experienced all the symptoms I have felt betray by my community, one of my friends ended up with my ex boyfriend right after we split up… I felt no support for that group of friend so ever…I have became the scape goat in groups in various forms and shapes.. no new friends sticked.. It was very hard because I have an Aquarius rising and friends were always abundant and helpful and a precious resource for my life I decided to hide deep into the forest… the underworld and the transformation it self became my best friends.. I notice that It is easy for people to reach me if they are in a deep place… for the rest I guess I am getting to know my best friend…Me! I do have friends left we share deep connections..the superficial social effect is gone for now..and I get to know who my real friends are…Reading this has been so helpful and healing Thank you so so much!!! Love to you all Mariana

  38. I know this thread is several years old but this topic is of too much interest for me to let alone.

    All you people boo-hooing about Pluto transiting your 11th house – you’d best count your lucky stars your natal Pluto is not housed there! A few years of this is fun enough without having to deal with it your ENTIRE LIFE. Be thankful your experience is TEMPORARY.

    Pluto here, temporarily, imo separates the wheat from the chaff. The ‘friends’ who leave and stay gone you’re better off without. Pluto’s doing you a favor.

    jamie & L: I totally agree with you 100%. Most of us born with Pluto in the 11th are destined to live lives that few could fathom, let alone tolerate. Human beings by nature are social creatures, but having Pluto there puts a lid on all that. Most of you posting here, when you have a problem – big or small – you usually call a friend to talk don’t you? Now imagine not having that option for MOST of your life. All you people with the transit need to quit your whining.

    I’ve learned to be my own best friend, I’ve learned to lean on myself and not expect anything from anyone because at the end of the day, *I* am all I have. And that’s not a complaint, it’s something I’m damn proud of.

  39. I don’t think its the Pluto thing. I don’t have Pluto in 11th and Ive lost an insane amount of friends within few years either. People I thought will be here forever. Id say its evolution. Life wants u to stick with relevant people all the time. However some of the great friends always remain with you. Always. But Im not sure what kind of people do you choose. I think this is the age of egotism. These awful things happen because people are still primitive. And also we r living in the age of decadence.

  40. My friend Lindy who I have know since the 70s has a permanent 11th house Pluto and says she has lost so many friends from their going abroad for good or just disappearing off the radar and a few deaths. The ones she keeps long term are like me strongly Plutonian [in my case it is conjunct my Sun] And even I went to live abroad. She is a very philosophical person…………..

    • I have a natal Pluto in 11th house, and I can identify with this situation, especially now, I think Mercury is currently retrograding in Libra (my 11th House), I just had an intense loss, my best friend cut off ties with me suddenly and said she is plain exhausted in maintaining this friendship. this came out of the blue and hurt me greatly as we had 20 decades of friendship. Through out my life, I also have difficulty in maintaining lasting friendships or relationships. Sometimes the effort is too immense for me, as I prefer a casual approach to friendship, preferring to hang out with whichever group’s interests I identify with, since teenage years such as clubbing, sports, gym, school, work friends etc. There are compartments of friends I keep separate and I tend to lose contact or be ‘dropped’ suddenly, as the interests waned off. I am used to it but the latest episode of my best friend’s disappearance affected me the most. I am not sure if my life is meant to be solitary or superficial. People mentioned that I have a strong presence in groups and can either inspire or intimidate by my energy field.

  41. Pluto in Capricorn is transiting my 11th and has already made several oppositions to my 5th house Uranus at 14° Cancer. I have, under this transit, retreated from all my friendships– several of which went back over forty years. I have basically become a recluse, isolating and insulating myself from people. I have also completely cut off from all my social media sites– Facebook, Twitter, etc. I don’t expect a 12th house Pluto transit to improve anything, if I live long enough to see it. I expect I am in for a very dismal future from here on out.

  42. Pluto transited my eleventh house when I was a kid. You could say it was challenging:) Looking back though I could say it made me very self reliant.

    • Yes, I fully agree.. Natally I have pluto in libra in the 10th house… I had a difficult time with peers aw making friends in my childhood

    • My daughter has Pluto there n Saturn not conjunct. Her dad was very difficult- moody- could not live with others- hoarder- but good heart n not abusive. She finds me a p in the a altho of course I am perfect. She has worked for same business for years but it is not very well paid for all the training and been in the same stable relationship since 16- she is 32.

  43. I have natal Pluto in the 8th house and between late 2014 to now two of my longest, closest friendships ended. Nobody’s left my life who didn’t need to go. I’m glad things worked out exactly as they have. Goodbye and good luck.

  44. My natal Pluto is in my 11th house,and my friends from childhood up have their Pluto in my 11th house.Every single one of them is gone from my life except for one.It has been a horrible experience to lost near and dear friends.Whoever it was that demoted Pluto as a planet no doubt had Pluto in the 11th!

  45. Pluto has been on the cusp of my 11th house for years and is now several degrees into to my 11th house. During the cusp years I let go of my troublesome friendships (most of them long distance) that always felt like a burden. In the end, I didn’t really lose anything, just de-cluttered my life. One friendship was particularly painful to lose. I eventually came to the reality that I had been unhappy with the relationship for years and would use remember the “good old days” to escape acting on it. Luckily I had a growth spurt and filled up all of that free time with making ME happy. I’m starting this transit with almost no friends and with a goal of obtaining a few really great, high quality friends. For those who are taking the the Pluto 11th House wipe out badly,.. being your OWN Best Friend helps out a Lot. I always think of Pluto as the alcohol that has to go on a cut, or it will get infected. It stings a little at first, but you heal faster if you just deal with it.

  46. I am studying my progressed chart and my progressed Pluto is in the 11th house. I am astonished by my progressions, which I have never examined before. They are thoroughly enlightening and explain everything including the consequences of Pluto’s placement. Somehow, instinctively, I have understood, though I have struggled to know what I was doing wrong. Finally, I concluded that, yes, there are areas needing improvement but I am now able to see people for who they are and I let them be. I am very Plutonian (Pluto 1st house conjunct the ascendant natally, I am 64) so understanding the nature of my interactions all my life has been tough and I have always had few friends. Now, every vestige of life as it once was is gone including every relationship. Painful. But as a writer, I strive to translate it into my work – a series of historical fiction novels.

    Thank you for aiding my understanding.

  47. My sweet Grand Scorpio moon is going to go through this when she is in high school. I see it coming like a freight train and it breaks my heart to know she will go through this when she is going to want friends so badly. I cant stand this for her. Please let me be alive so I can help her through it. I’m worried about it for her. 🙁 She will be 15 years old. I just hate this for her….I really do.

    • Pluto transited my 11th house in high school. By my junior year in high school, i literally had no friends. I would follow this one girl and her friend to her house for lunch, but it was obvious they didnt want me there. It was really pitiful. But i learned how to be alone, which prepared me for 12th house transit.

      • I didn’t see this for some reason back in 2017 Libra Noir! Thank you for sharing. I feel bad for her. She is in a rough school and is having trouble, but hanging in there. She has two friends right now and she is trying so hard to have fun. This is going to be a painful transit for her because all she wants in the world is to have a pal… makes me sick watching it. I too learned how to be alone but not from a transit to the 11th. Knowing someone you love is going to feel isolated and do a lot of crying is like being stabbed in the heart. Wish it were me going through it for her. I got Pluto’s number. I can take it!

  48. Uranus is still ploughin through my 11th n I seem to be losing patience for some of my friends’ foibles that have always been there but the actual ending of friendships one way or another has stopped for now. A different vibe to the Pluto 11th one of course which I think I will miss this lifetime!!!

  49. Yes, I completely resonate with the loss of friends, although in my case it has been through death. My father died at the exact time Pluto moved into my 11th… he was one of my my best friends in this life. Apart from him, 11 others have died so far (in less than 5 years).
    Now Saturn is moving into the 11th, too. that will be interesting!

  50. Lost a friend to emphysema when Chiron went to 11th this year but did not find out for 4 months- she was my friend for 40 years on facebook latterly n when she announced her computer had died it took me a long time to realise she had not returned. Her close relative did not pass the news on as he has a syndrome.

    • Thanks for that Anju.
      It is comforting when astrology explains the reasons for the heavy changes. My problem is trying not to anticipate horrible things when I see a difficult transit approach. Chiron in 11th seems to be doing an efficient job of ending friendships like Pluto does. But should we not meet Plutonian flavour or Chiron flavour friends at this time too? Not having a partner, I could do with that!!’

  51. Have Pluto transiting my 11th house in Capricorn for 7 years now. Still 4 years to go. All my friends have fallen away, the community I was in the teacher I followed, All “friends” from school etc. All gone. It All happened when I got in an accident and hit my head. Was bedridden for 1 year and tot his day have chronic pain, which limits my energy to be with people. But that one year wiped the slate clean. Everyone that wasn’t there truly, that didn’t step up to the plate, just fell off. It all just became so clear that if a person is not there for you when you are really really really in the dumps, then then it’s a waste of ones time to have them in your life. It sounds brutal, but it’s true. I’ve never had many friends to begin with, and found it tiring to always give so much emotionally and get nothing in return (8th house Pluto and moon in scorpio natally), and somehow I finally started respecting myself when Pluto came in and tore all seeming friendships apart. It’s been in a very silent way though. I just couldn’t communicate when I was sick with a concussion and time just webt on and now it’s been 4 years and I’m ok, no particular need to pick up contact againm it’s a æeculiar feeling. When I sit and think about the fact that I don’t have anyyyy friends (besides my family and partner which is more than enough ;)), then it seems quite strange that I somehow can’t force a feeling of wanting to connect with others again. As someone commented above, if the people I encounter now are not “on a path” meaning not just going through the motions of life but are actually stopping up and asking the question “why am I here, why do I feel the way I do, why do we all suffer” then there’s no point in striking up a friendship other than an hour of entertainment. 11th house Pluto… It’s brutal in the way it cuts and dissects your friends away, in the way it examines your dreams and aspirations, I’ve really had some painful moments of illusions dropping off, about people, near ones, my dreams about life, my goals, but it’s clear that it’s for the better now. The first years of this transit were really tough, now it all beings to make sense. Thank you for sharing. It helps knowing that others come to the same insights once the Pluto cloud lifts and that good things await. Cheers Elsa !!

  52. I disagree! My Pluto transit through 11th house has come to its end. I have very short house 11th, so this transit have lasted for almost 10 years. Before It had started I had few friends. Two girls from primary school, one from my studies and one from my university and I was 22 at that point.
    This time have been magical for me. I met many valuable people, many of them’ve become my friends. I’ve started my new passion which I was dreaming about for my whole life. I’ve started to live and seize the day. As I said this time comes to its end. Pluto is 2 degrees from my 12th house cusp and I can see changes everywhere – in every little part of my life and I have to face it. I don’t know what it brings about, I don’t feel ready, but let it be.

    Natal Pluto sits in my 8th house in Scorpio and trine my Moon in 11th house.
    Sorry for my clumsy English, I’m not a native.

    Regards for everyone. Don’t be scared. Pluto in 11th can be also a chance.

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