My husband and I have been watching old episodes of, “Married At First Sight”. I understand it’s some level of fake, scripted and just flat-out stupid on various levels. That doesn’t mean there is nothing to learn! If nothing else, it verifies something I already know from consulting – a lot of people want to be partnered. Many of them struggle.
I like this show because this much about it is real – they offer ideas and instructions around how to commit and stay that way. They put people in a circumstance where they can practice. They also put a real effort into matching people who might actually match. For example, they put people who are close to their families with someone similar. Religious with religious. Free-spirited people steer clear of people who are overly stern or serious.
Some of the couples flop but virtually all of them can see why they were matched with the other person. The point is, they go beyond (or below) the surface in order to come up with the trial couples.
Being an astrologer, I work with a lot of Indian people; arranged marriage is still a thing. That aside, it wasn’t that long ago that marriages were arranged in other cultures. For example, my husband’s grandmother had an arranged marriage.
I’m really thinking about this at this point. People have asked me, over the years, to come up with an astrology matching thing. While I would definitely use astrology if I were choosing pairs, I don’t know enough people to pull this off. If I did, I would do it in a second. So I was going to write about this, but then I spoke with a client today…
She suggested I teach a class on how to partner, for real and for life. What is a reasonable expectation to have of another person vs. what’s a fantasy? Is it fair to expect someone to put up with your crap, or should you do that yourself? What are the pitfalls, benefits, risks…etc.
I do have this information on “insta-knowledge”. It’s my field, after all. I have seriously studied relationships since I was a teenager.
I have gotten A LOT of people married over the years. That’s what they wanted and that’s what they got. I think this may be my Saturn transit through my 1st house. Two and a half years to work this out for your benefit and mine.