I spoke to Leon last night. He’s Libra with a Scorpio Moon conjunct Neptune and has been a friend for 25 years. When we first met, Leon and I used to really piss each other off. He’s very good at provoking and I’m very good at reacting, so there you go.
But fact is, when Henry died and I cried virtually nonstop for six months, it was Leon (and his first wife) who showed up to help me clean out his house, and continued to show long after everyone else I knew abandoned me.
So he’s that kind of “loyal”. This is his nature and he proved yet again, it when his first wife contacted him about 18 months ago, about 20 years post their divorce. She was in a crisis with her two kids after their father died. She was divorced from this guy who was abusive and controlling, but she never managed to really wrestle free of him and in fact he was mean enough to actually jack her up on his death bed. Yes.
As he lay dying, he asked her to make him a promise. “Please try to do something about your anger,” he said. “For the kid’s sake,” he added. Can you believe this?
Leon called me. “I don’t really remember her being angry, do you?”
“No. Hell no. That guy was a jerk. I remember her being ultra loving. She was sweet, Leon. She was good to you and she was always really good to me. Nothing but. I have terrific memories of her.”
“That’s what I thought.”
“Well, that’s what it was. You used to pick on me relentlessly. Remember? And I’d fight you but eventually you’d get that knife of yours just right and there I’d be on the verge of tears. And she always stepped in. You leave her alone, she’d say. Shut up, Leon. She’d get on you like that. She’d run interference and spared me bursting into tears many times. You know. I would be right there and she would provide enough of a distraction I could pull myself together and handle you. Don’t worry about him, Elsa. He loves you. He always wants to come here. Let’s go see Elsa! I don’t know why he acts like this… see what I mean? She was like that. That was her energy towards me and you? Well she was just really in love with you and wanted to have a good relationship. All those love notes on the fridge at your place. That’s what I remember. Nothing mean, ever.”
“Okay, well this is good to hear. This is what I thought but I wanted to check. I think this guy sort of messed her up. He’s got her thinking all kinds of things.”
“Well it’s no surprise. That guy was a jerk from day one.”
So Leon (and his Scorpio) set about healing his ex-wife. And he did it without an agenda because this is the way he is. Now he’s a jerk in many ways. However when the chips are down he is a superb, sensitive and loving friend and this side of him sprang into action for his ex. And I wrote about it back then. I was so moved over how he was treating her and I felt very proud and grateful to know him.
To be continued
Do you show up when the chips are down, or do you find it too heavy and leave that to others who are better equipped? Do you have Scorpio in your chart?
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