For about a year now, I have been the focus of a very sexy and mysterious Scorpio male’s gaze. As a Capricorn I have found the whole situation intensely intriguing and recently approached him saying I couldn’t ignore him anymore. He was delighted and so was I.
A week after I had propositioned him which was the next time I saw him, I had my male cousin visiting from out of town. We are very close and also very tactile. I made sure my cousin was well settled at the party then shimmied over to Mr. Scorpio for some get to know you time or so I thought. I was met with the coldest gaze as he continued his conversation. I waited but when he was finished, he walked off in the opposite direction without acknowledging me. Then he planted himself next to some girl I knew he had no interest in.
All of this is obviously a huge misunderstanding. Knowing he is a Scorpio, I would never try to make him jealous once I had expressed an interest. Given the chance, I would have told him I had my cousin visiting.
Fast forward to a week later, we go to the same party every Friday night. This particular night I allowed myself to look at him, he was looking back and I was feeling hopeful that we would be able to move forward from the week before. Oh was I wrong. He proceeded to schmooze with every girl in sight even bringing them right in front of me so I could get a better view. I stayed calm and cool, allowed myself to look then would continue chatting or dancing which would have infuriated him – but I didn’t know what to do!
Is it all lost? This behavior is so unlike him, he usually sits in the order and observes everyone, especially me. He was acting like the life of the party which is more my style, at least among close friends. How can I get him to come round? He probably won’t believe that that guy was my cousin. I understand Scorpio’s need for revenge; I have been on the receiving end in the past. Has he lost interest? What can I do to make him give me another chance? I know it sounds crazy that this is what I would want given his attitude and the fact that we haven’t even been on a date but the connection is really strong. I didn’t realize the potential but I guess he did and that’s why he is so vengeful.
Help me please,
Capricorn in Distress
You don’t make a Scorpio do anything. He’s going to do whatever he wants and at the moment it seems that he wants to play games. Do you want to play games? Personally I don’t like games so I’ll tell you what I would do… and what you might do. And then you, like him, can do whatever you want.
I would approach him directly. I would tell him I was interested in him but not interested in bullshit and see what he had to say. If he could not or would not answer this direct question, I would consider him unfit for a relationship. Because I like to connect and if I can’t connect – if you can’t or you won’t let me in – then I don’t care how smoky and mysterious you are. At that point you are no longer interesting, you are a waste of time.
So that’s one way to play and here’s another: Take your energy off him and see what he does. The last thing that is going to impress Scorpio is your weakness. So for Godsakes don’t subjugate yourself. But if you take your energy off him completely, he will either come to you or he won’t. And if he does, I would recommend you be very candid about how the games bother you. This is assuming they bother you, which is a probably a wrong assumption!
What I really think is going on here is this: You are both very game-y. He’s running his game, you’re running yours and when two people are game-y like that, it’s virtually impossible for anything to come of it. Both of you are trying to control, manipulate or trump the other person and I am sorry but ultimately this leads nowhere.
As a Scorpio — here’s my two cents. We Scorpios can act crazy when we’re dealing with those we feel deeply connected with. From my experience, its difficult to let someone know that you care for someone that intensely and it can be easy for us to look at everything through the lens of the possible relationship.
That said, Elsa is right. Be upfront with him and let him know what was going on and where you stand — not as an act of submission but grounded in the truth of your intentions. As a Scorpio, I know I have a very strong will and I’ve always searched for someone who’s up to the challenge of being an equal. That means you need to show him that you wouldn’t play with his affections but that you also won’t be pushed around.
You might want to give him a little time to cool down, but Elsa’s right — you won’t make a Scorpio do something, nor should he be able to make you do anything, either. Be honest and upfront and let the chips fall where they may. In the long run, that’s your best choice.
Right on, Elsa. I don’t care if he’s a Scorpio, he didn’t even give the letterwriter a chance. He assumed everything right away and then treated her rudely.
Dump him. Fast.
Do you really need that level of childishness?
I’m sure I’m going to end up a single virgo old maid for my ideals, but really you deserve a man who cares enough for you to not be deliberately hurtful.
Oh my god, i’m reading this story as i’m telling mine.. I’m a capricorn girl in love with this stubborn scorpio guy who is love with me.. at first i was like the hard-to-get type and of course it’s scorpio’s favorite.. and actually i didn’t change except my heart which has fell in love with him. He’s the kind of a guy that no girl can say “NO” to him, and maybe that’s why he’s chasing me. I can say he’s Don Juan.
He has been chasing me for like 2 years.. he tried every method to have me but i did hurt and neglected him alot, the thing that bugs me is that i still do. And now he’s acting wierd trying to make me jealous. he even shows that he doesn’t care about me anymore, but it’s obviously not true.
I just have reasons to not be with him. And because i’m a capricorn I think about it alot. I want to be sure that 100% he’s the one. Though i have a deep emotional side which can’t hide it. I have a big fight between my heart and my mind everyday. I really don’t know what to do.
Wow… this probably happens to a lot of scorpio guys cause I’m in a similiar situation with a scorpio. I’m a virgo girl and man I’d have to say the connection and chemistry is so crazy and passionate. We began seeing each other after my other fellow virgo ex broke up aka my first love. They are good friends but I played hard to get with this scorpio for three months and then we finally kissed. Whoa… amazing. We were officially seeing each other but I was still thinking about my first love. First loves are hard to get over, okay?! But that’s no excuse to explain what I had done to this scorpio guys heart. I made the mistake of hooking up with my virgo ex. Bad move! Scorpios deep emotional feelings came surging out and got back at me by hooking up with HIS old ex… IN FRONT OF ME at a party. Heh. Guess that’s what I get. I don’t know why I hooked up with the ex… maybe because I was so familiar with him and he was my first love. Maybe I was too scared to move on… and to move on to something so real. He was so faithful and loyal to me, my god. Perfect package 😉 we share the same group of friends so we see each other at parties and hell try to make me jealous by being all over this new girl that he’s just hooking up with in front of me. We have this crazy connection anytime we gaze at each other and I see him looking at me from the corner of his eye. *sigh. You can say he’s the one that got away… but were going to school together next year… along with my ex. Oh boy.
I AM A CAPRICORN WOMAN WHO HAD FALLEN HEAD OVER HEELS FOR MY SCORPIO MAN I’M 38 HE IS 53. HE IS HANDSOME, SEXY, IN SUPERIOP SHAPE ( THE BRO WORKS OUT EVERY DAY. WAIT EAT CERTAIN FOOD HEALTH ADDICT, AND I LOVE THAT! HE IS QUITE IN PUBLIC AND SOMETIMES AROUND FRIENDS, BUT CAN AND WILL BECOME VERY DISTANT AND HATEFUL IF YOU SAY ONE LITTLE WORD TO SHOOT DOWN HIS EGO. DO NOT TELL HIM WHAT TO DO “EAMPLE’ I SAID ONCE TO HIM YOU NEED TO CHANGE YOUR TONE OF VOICE WHEN TALKING TO ME, AND HIS RESPONSE WAS NOW U ARE TRYING TO TELL ME HOW TO TALK NOW, INSTEAD OF GOING THERE LIKE I CAN WITH HIM I SAID ‘NO BABY IM JUST SAYING…..IN THE CALMEST SWEETIEST VOICE AND HE WAS ALRIGHT CUZ HE WAS ( BACK-IN-CONTROL)
HE DOS’NT LIKE A GHETTO WOMAN HE ADORES CLASS, SO LADIES DON’T TRY TO GET EVEN WITH HIM BECAUSE HE IS NOT RESPONDING TO U LIKE U THINK HE SHOULD IF U DO IT WILL MAKE HIM BECOME DISTANT TOWARDS U, BUT ‘NOTE’ IF YOU REALLY KNOW IN YOUR HEART THAT IT’S A POSSILIBITY THAT HE DID HAVE JUST A OUNCE OF LOVE FOR U, DON’T GIVE UP BECAUSE IF HE REALLY LOVES U HE’LL COME BACK, I KNOW CUZ IT HAPPEN TO ME! I DON’T UNDERSTAND AT FIRST ‘ ALL THIS STUFF ABOUT HIM HAVING SPACE AND SEEING ME ON HIS AGENDA, NOT SEEING HIM FOR DAYS OR TALKING TO HIM ON THE PHONE WAS REAL….CRAZY TO ME, WAIT WHO DO HE THINK HE IS? AND THAT’S HOW THE FALLEN BEGIN CUZ I NEEDED TO CURSE AT HIM TELL HIM TO KISS MY A–AND SO ON AND SO FOURTH, I’M HERE TO TELL U THAT’S WAS THE WORSE THING I COULD HAVE DONE. HE QUIETLY ENDED IT. HE WOULD’NT TALK TO ME, BECAME LIKE A EMEMY TO ME AFTER THAT. I WAS NOW SORRY CUZ I SAID THINGS THAT I MEANT TO SAY AND CAN’T AND WON’T TAKE IT BACK, THAT’S THE WAY I WAS FEELING AT THAT TIME. BUT THOSE ACTIONS COST ME BIG, IT TOOK HIM ABOUT 2 MONTHS BEFORE HE WOULD TALK TO ME, AND BOY WHEN HE DID HE HAD A LOT TO SAY. I HAD TO SURRENDER TO HIM BIG TIME PRETTY MUCH BE A YES BABY WOMAN TO WIN HIS HEART BACK. I
HAD TO SAY SORRY OVER 100 TIMES, I HAD TO LET HIM BE THE ONE WHO CHASE ME AGAIN. WHEN HE STOP TALKING TO ME I FELT REJECTION BIG TIME, I’M A CAPRICORN WOMAN HOW ARE U GONNA DEEP ME IS WHAT I THOUGHT,AND BECAUSE I FELT LIKE HE WON THE GAME I WAS MESSED UP AND REFUSED TO LET HIM HAVE THAT ONE CALL ME STUBBORN I DON’T GIVE UP UNTILL I GET WHAT I WANT. SO THE MORE HE WOULD TALK THE MORE I NEED TO REACH OUT AND TOUCH HIM. 1ST. I CHANGED MY ALITUDE I WAS WRONG AND I NEEDED TO MAKE PEACE WITH HIM ON THAT. 2ND. I WOULD NOT STOP CALLING HIM, LEAVING MESSAGES, TEXTING HIM THE WHOLE 2 MONTHS HE WOULD RESPONSE. AND FINALLY THE LAST MESSAGE I WAS SO FRUSTRATED BUT AT PEACE AND CRYING BECAUSE NOW I NEEDED TO LET HIM GO! HE RESPONSE TO ME AFTER I STARTED CRYING THEN THAT’S WHEN HE HAD A LOT TO SAY. HE NOW KNOW THAT I LOVED HIM CUZ I HONG IN THERE. I HONG IN THERE CUZ I KNEW IN MY HEART THAT HE LOVES ME IT’S ALL IN HIS EYES AND YOU CAN SURE READ A SCORPIO MAN HEART BY LOOKING INTO HIS EYES THAT DON’T LIE IF YOU LOOK HARD ENOUGH YOU’LL KNOW WHAT I’M TALKING ABOUT. BEFORE I END I WOULD LIKE TO SAY WE FIT GOOD TO GATHER LIKE A HAND IN A GLOVE GOOD GOOD LOVE, WE UNDERSTAND EACH OTHER AND HE IS WILLING TO MEET ME HALF WAY NOW. HE CALLS ME NOW WHEN I DON’T CALL HE. HIS ALITUDE TOWARDS ME HAS BECOME MORE CARING LOVING EXCITING JUST HOW I NEED IT. I LOVE THIS MAN AND I NEEDED TO SHOW ALL SIDE OF ME TO EARN HIS LOVE AND RESPECT, BUT IN THE END HE’S KNOW EXACTLY WHERE I’M COMING FROM AND IF HE CAN HANDLE ME IT WILL BE ALRIGHT! GOOD LUCK LADIES SCORPIO MAN WILL SURRENDER THERE HEARTS IF U ARE UP ON YOUR SHIT………….AND BE CLASSY ABOUT NO CURSING OR GETTING EVEN MAKING HIM JEALOUS CUZ IN THE END YOU’LL ONLY HURT YOURSELF.
lucky u.my man “punished” me for 6months last year.lol.& yah i deserved it.heh.then when he was back to normal..he started pursuing me & he changed..more caring,calls me,pleases me etc. .
oh and now he’s hiding again now…i hurt him again..ugh..it was nothing but hes oversensitive..thinking of initiating contact after a month & explain.
he played the song “keep holding on” by avril before when he was in his hiding mode.lol.i will baby…weird he tells me things through songs 🙂
I’m a libra girl and i’ll tell you this… scorpio men are the sexiest people on the planet. i’m talking to one right now, and he makes me so anxious. we work together and sometimes he’ll make grunting sounds in my ear just to turn me on… i hate him! but i want him so bad. we go for days without talking. he has the most peircing blue eyes. this is torture and whats stranger is that i love it. he is so good looking. i want to marry this man.
WOW! I’m a capricorn female and I met a scorpio man 3yrs ago. I met him at a restaurant while visiting minnesota. We stayed intouch on and off for about 2yrs via text msgs. After 2yrs he called me out of the blue and told me that he knows that I’m his wife and we’re getting married!!!!! WHAT??!! …it was extremly weird because we hardly spoke to eachother! We never slept together or went on a date! Well, we started talking frequently…like clockwork…8am…noon…and @bedtime everyday for 4mos. Now…HE SAYS HE LOVES ME!!! and we still never had sex! we send eachother sexy pics but that’s it! I don’t know what to do because where is all of this coming from??? I haven’t seen him in person in 3yrs!! He really jealous and this phone relationship is draining me!!!
im an scorpio 35, had exteem sex with 5 mulitiple sign girls in last five years back, now im going to marry capricorn 24yrs baby, we met many time but due to cold and official replies in romantic atmosphir i’ didnt did any sex with her. but in every night on phone she is energtic passion in sex, i dod’nt understand how i arroused her to give me love with sex, i care n respect but due to self decsion and she never share me what she is going for me and stupid surprises gave me touble. when ever she teach me like mother i listen calmly but she while doing any thig she dominate me, she never say u can do it very great sex, otherthen she said dont woryy im with u i can also like without sex after marrige. some time she played mystry games with me to prvide me wrong information, she never said WHAT Y N HOW incase im loosing face. she loves me a lot but in which way i did’t get till. im sincere n loyl but some time she forget me in party or dinner she extreemly involded some time other guyes who has powerfull money and genetal look. which i feel bad in my view.
kindly suggest me in that situation wht i do.?
A Scorpio man once raped and prostitutised me (I’m Aries). I’ll never forget him, but he made me a slut.
hi good afternoon,
i am scorpio men i am to jelosy and possive i had relotionship with aries but i lost. how to control my jeslosy and possiveness please suggest
Seriously, common sense would have been to tell him that the guy was just your cousin. Should have been the first thing you did — go up to him directly and say in a firm and serious tone of voice that he was your cousin and that you weren’t trying to make him jealous or play any games like that.
That said, the fact that this guy you’re slobbering over would find it appropriate to retaliate in kind with such childish games would be a red flag to me. Speaks volumes about his maturity, in my opinion. (The “adult” thing to do would have been to ask you directly whether you’re taking him seriously.)
He’s a Scorpio I’m a Capricorn 10 years older than he we started having sex only as friends I guess then he told me he had a girlfriend then I was told by other women and he was seeing them about you leave me alone and he won’t I don’t understand why I’ve been nice I’ve been mean I’ve ignored him I’ve done everything he says he doesn’t care one thing about me but won’t leave me alone the f*****-up thing is he lives in the same mobile home park I do no matter what I say or do he always comes back I have rules I have to follow he does not have any rules says he doesn’t care for me in that way but questions everything if he sees a car in the driveway if you see somebody stick sitting outside with me it is the oddest thing I’ve ever seen in my life he won’t look into my eyes he’ll cover them half the time with childish dick play talks like a 17 year old punk and will only show up when it’s convenient for him I don’t know what to do I don’t want to be nice anymore because I have been the entire time I truly want to fight that a****** in the got dang Street