A person with North Node in Aries, or the first house has South Node in Libra, or in the seventh house. Earlier in your life you were taught to be socially graceful. Perhaps you were from a well off family. Maybe you just had a family that taught you manners, and how to act in front of the public. Your family taught you how to treat, and greet, strangers. You made sure you used the right silverware during a fancy dinner, ‘And oh, please don’t slurp that soup!’ They also might have taught you how to speak in measured tones, as to not offend people. Or, you were just born that way.
One theory is that you might have learned people skills from past lives. In one past life, you could have been a negotiator that helped soothe a criminal into not detonating a bomb. Or you helped negotiated a robber from not shooting any people. You tried to limit the number of people the robber shot if you could. And you might have helped defused fights just by your social skills alone.
Earlier in your life you could have been more about socializing, and worrying about your social image, rather than following your own instincts. You may have been popular at school and you built a solid reputation among your peers. You’ve built your life, especially in your younger years, around ‘the other’. You were charming and the masses and people in general, loved you. You were the quintessential ‘good girl’, or ‘good guy’. Doing all that is fine and good, that is until you feel like you’re dimming your own sense of self in order to please everyone else. You might have come to a point where you feel smothered by too much social niceties, or that your own inner compass is being pushed down.
One way to get out of this feeling of being dimmed is to learn to make decisions based on what you feel is best for yourself, rather than for someone else. This does not mean that you have to disregard other people completely. In fact, you’re not supposed to destroy your South Node; you’re supposed to integrate your North Node together with your South Node.
The North Node in Aries may manifest in different ways. Situations such as these may pop up in your life. For example, friends want you to hang out with them one weekend, but you feel like you need a few days off to recharge. A South Node in Libra may decide to hang out with their friends anyway, even if it depletes their energy. Instead, you could explain to your friends why you need time to yourself. Saying yes could result in you resenting yourself, or them, later. You can do all this while acting in a way that doesn’t antagonize other people.
You may suffer if you keep pushing your own needs down. Taking out your anger on other people when it was you who made your own decisions, is not the best way to handle your North Node in Aries. In this lifetime, you must learn to stand up for yourself, and not let other people use steamrolling tactics, over you. Honor and respect your own opinions. Do not let people bully you, or use force, to get you to agree with them, or move your stance. This is a lifelong lesson about being, and taking care, of you.
The North Node in Aries may also affect your decision making skills. Like you may be in a career for fifteen years, and you’re now extremely unhappy with it. You have also found a new passion that is more in line with who you are. But the people in your circle of friends may look down upon this new path that you want to go on. There is nothing wrong with sharing your thoughts and feelings with friends, but this path you have been on for years no longer satisfies you. You may still use your Libra South node to charm people to your team, but it’s likely that you will come to an impasse, and learn the hard lesson that you can’t please everyone. Not everyone is going to be on the same page as you, and you will have to choose between pleasing others, versus pleasing yourself. You may even lose friends because of your decision.
This is a hard lesson for Libra South Nodes, as you people can see many sides of an argument. You are born people-pleasers. But you must learn that there is a limit to pleasing and winning over everyone.
Partnerships in the past
In past lives, or earlier in this one, you may have worked with a partner. You may have decided you wanted a boyfriend, or a girlfriend, also. In your career, you may have partnered up with someone to deliver amazing results in your work.
The universe may push you into situations where you have to work alone, be independent, or just learn to live without a spouse. This is not to punish you. It may be you have been depending on other people for too long. It’s possible you have depended on a significant other to make you happy for a while, and it’s time to be by yourself.
Independence is a huge word for this North Node. I once knew a woman who decided that she just wasn’t going to ever marry. She has this placement, and goes on to live a very fulfilling and happy life. She also has a career as a police officer. How Aries is that?
Overall, this North Node teaches one to depend on themselves rather than other people. It’s a lesson in self-assertion and living true to one’s path.
Do you have North Node in Aries, or the first house? Are these challenges familiar to you? If not, what challenges, or lessons, are missing? Do you think you are on your way to mastering your North Node in Aries, and/or the first house?
Read the intro to this series – Astrology and the North Node: Destiny, potential, and lessons